(Closed) Is it okay to ask your fiancé to clean up his appearance a little?

posted 4 years ago in Beauty
Post # 16
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831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

mrspereira:  100% agreed. There’s a difference between being concerned about somebody being unkempt and being demanding.

Post # 17
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424 posts
Helper bee

Stained teeth and dandruff are problems easily solved through product consumption. Just buy new shampoo and toothpaste! This is how I introduced my SO to the wonder that is conditioning your hair. Conditioner showed up one day in the shower, and now it’s here to stay.

But I’m wondering if this is a larger issue where there are other hygiene/presentation related things you think he’s not taking care of. You mention that you’re doing a 4 month beauty and fitness routine leading up to the wedding. If he just used a dandruff shampoo and a whitening toothpaste more often, would you be happy with that? Or are there other, bigger, more long-term changes you’re hoping he’ll make?

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

The answers here astound me. You are MARRYING this guy; how is it possible that you can’t ask him to use some white strips and treat his dandruff? This isn’t your boss, it’s your freakin fiancé. How are you going to talk about kids, financial problems, death if you can’t talk about hygiene? If that hurts his feelings then he needs the reality check even more. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

I thought about this before my wedding… I wanted everything to be as picture-perfect as possible. Then a realised, things are ACTUALLY perfect, and I stopped caring about perfecting his appearance. He looked great at our wedding, even with slightly stained teeth! 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’d hope that if I had bad dandruff and for some reason didn’t notice, my husband would tell me or buy me head and shoulders. stained teeth…depends.  Some stains are permanent and not necessarily from drinking too much coffee Etc. If it’s because he doesn’t brush well, or a stain that could easily be helped with strips then I don’t see why not.  When you put them on, give him a set and be like, these are really awesome, let’s try them together tonight.

I would definitely just buy the shampoo myself for him.  I usually buy shampoo for husband anyways 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

Yes it’s ok. I’ve got my FIs back 100% and I hope he has mine. Better your loved one helping you out than having people at work snigger behind your back. It’s all in the delivery…. help him select some appropriate hair care products and tell him how hot he looks afterwards! 

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