Post # 1
So my sister is my Matron Of Honor and then I have my bestest friend who is my Maid of Honor and I have 2 Bridesmaids and 1 jr. Bridesmaid. My bestest friend is going through alot finacially and emotionly and hasnt really been here helping me out wiith planning and opinions. I understand… I know the things shes going through right now. and I know she wont let me down and back out b/c of these things. And my sister is taking care of my really ill mom, so for obvious reasons, I dont have her either… plus she lives 7hrs away too so that doesnt help.
My other bridesmaid who is my other best friend that I talk to ALL the time… has been my go to girl over everyting ( she also lives 7hrs away). Shes been planning the bachelorette party, bridal shower and has been the one helping me plan the wedding… even if its been over the phone and pic message. She has just been SO AWESOME! Im such an emotional wreck with my mom being ill and she has just helped me in soo many ways that I just think she deserves the title of Maid of Honor.
Is this okay????
Post # 4
The maid of honor is not the person who helps you the most. She is the person you would call at 3AM to hide a body.
My guess is this friend knows you have 2 MOHs already, to add her would only look like an afterthought to her and kind of an insult to the others – like, look ladies, you weren’t doing enough so Sally is another Maid/Matron of Honor too.
Post # 5
I’d just not give the title to anyone so they are all equal.
Post # 7
@futuremrsfitz18: LOL hide a body!!!
OP i say nay
Post # 8
Doesnt the Maid/Matron of Honor sign your certificate as a witness to the marriage?.. if so, do all three sign?
Post # 9
I kinda agree wtih future mrs. fitz..there should really only be one MoH and the MoH isn’t necessarily the one who does everything…and yes, life happens, and maybe your MoH may not be able to do her usual duties, but that is why you need to make sure they know the other bridesmaids and maybe your mom is there to help her with anything she needs. Honestly, I’d let ur friend off the hook as MoH since it sounds like sh’es going through alot (unless you think that would just hurt her feelings, let her keep the title)…..but keep everything else the way it is. Just appreciate what they can do for you.
Post # 10
The more people who you give the title to, the less important it becomes. Like if there were 7 people who were the Queens of England, the title wouldn’t be nearly as big of a deal.
There should be just one Maid/Matron of Honor, she would be the one to sign as the witness, and take the position closest to you. This person doesn’t have to be the one who does the most work, but the person you are closest to.