Post # 1
My friend really really wants to throw me a bridal shower. I have a total of 9 Bridesmaid or Best Man but only 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man who lives in town. I’m getting married on a Sunday. The bachlorette party will be on Friday. My Fiance is partners with the owner of the club I’m having it at so I’ll have the VIP section and liquor free of charge so no one has to spend any money. I have some friends who I haven’t seen since high school who are coming and I didn’t want them to spend all that money on a ticket and hotel and have nothing to do so I planned a Belly Dancing class for everyone on the Saturday. The rental is for two hours but the class is just an hour so we have an hour to just hang out.
Some of my Bridesmaid or Best Man I also haven’t seen in a long time so I want to do as much fun stuff with them as possible. I’m not worried about receiving presents I just want to hang out. I am also inviting some of my female friends to attend the Belly Dancing class since there’s no cap on the amount of people I can invite, the price remains the same. After the class we would have to go to rehearsal then they would have an hour before the rehearsal dinner.
We are having the rehearsal dinner at our home so we could invite Out of Town guest as well. Does the bridal shower the day before the wedding to close? Is there another name I can call it so people don’t feel like they have to bring a present. It will only be wine, cake and punch since 3 hours later we will have the dinner. I really don’t care about having a bridal shower so it’s not about having it earlier. I just rather wait til my BMs are in town to do stuff. The Belly Dancing class will be a surprise, I’m not telling them where we are going.
Post # 3
Can’t say if its going to be cutting it too close, especially with belly dancing class (which sounds awesome, but the way), however my friend had her bridal shower the day before the wedding, and it worked perfectly. Most of the bridal party was from out of town, so we arranged for a Thursday night Bachelorette Party, Friday afternoon shower, Friday evening rehersal/rehersal dinner, and the Saturday wedding. Everyone had a blast and nobody felt overwhelmed or rushed by the schedule. I was so impressed with the way it worked, that we are planning on having my shower the day before the wedding to allow out of town guests to be there. Hope that helps a little.
Post # 4
@docgardner: The time line should be fine since the Belly Dancing would be part of the shower. It will be dancing for an hour and the last hour it will have cake and punch. I really want to include my Out of Town friends and I don’t want them to feel like I’m they have to buy me a present for that and then the wedding. Should I call it another name? My mom and sisters and stuff won’t be in town til Friday so I really don’t want to do it without them.
Post # 5
I think if you can handle it then go for it! I know the day before my wedding I was trying to tie up loose ends and taking care of last min “emergencies”. I personally couldn’t imagine having a shower the same day of the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. But thats just me personally.
Maybe call a pre-wedding kick off or something like that!
Post # 6
Honestly, I would not call iwas shower. It sounds like more of a bridesmaids luncheon. Calling it a shower and holding it a day before the wedding could appear to be gift grabby, since both weddings and showers are considered gift giving events.
Post # 7
My cousin and aunt planned my shower for the day before my wedding and I LOVED it! It allowed the women from both mine and DH’s families to be there as well as my friends. Since most of these people had to travel, having it right before the wedding was the only way most could attend.
It was wonderful to have to relaxing time with the important women in my life right before the wedding and to have them all together at one event. My sister is getting married next year and we plan to do the same for her shower!
Post # 8
Personally, I will not be able to do this because we have too much to do the day before the wedding, but I WISH I could do it because then more people could be in town for it. :/
Post # 9
I think my Maid/Matron of Honor, who is my cousin, will drop down dead if she doesn’t get to throw me a shower. From day 1 she has been consumed with my wedding. She loves to plan parties but she doesn’t live in town and won’t be able to get here til about 6 days before my wedding. She already came down to go dress shopping with me so I can’t ask her to fly down for a shower and then for the wedding. My BMs also wants me to have a shower, but everyone is coming in on the Friday. These are my girls from way back and they all want me to have the whole “Wedding Experience”
I’m not concerned about presents at all. I was thinking about just letting her send out invitations to the bridal party and family members about it being a shower and my firends get another invitations, like someone mentioned earlier, calling it a pre-wedding kick off. My concern is that the people who get the pre-wedding invitation gets offended that I didn’t give them an opportunity to bring a gift. Like saying they couldn’t afford to buy me a bridal shower gift and a wedding gift. As of right now, we are not doing a registry for our wedding.
Post # 10
My sister did this and I will be doing this too. Our side of the family is all out of town and we don’t get to all be together often so this was a great oportunity to feel like you could spend time with relatives outside of the wirlwild wedding day. We had a blast and didn’t have an issue at all with the timing. We did a brunch ‘mad hatter’ tea party for my sister and the rehearsal that evening. For my wedding the ‘guys’ are also going to do a thing while all the women are at the shower (probably golf). I think if you plan it right (ie don’t have last minute crafts to do till 3am on your wedding day) you will love it and cherish the extra time with your girls!
Post # 11
I mean, yeah, you can do it. But I think you’ll regret it….it’s going to be an exhausting weekend if you try and cram all that stuff in!