Post # 1
We’re getting ready to send out save the dates and the list of people we’d like to invite is way over our projected number. I feel this can be easily solved by not giving +1’s to our colleagues, but is this proper etiquette? What about no +1’s for unmarried colleagues (or engaged/long-term relationship), but allowing married collagues to bring their spouse?
Post # 3
If there’s a sizable group, they should be fine coming alone. The only exception would be if you know both the husband and wife. Then both should be invited.
Post # 4
Colleagues dont need plus ones, they will know each other and can sit together.
Post # 5
Plus ones go to couples who are married, engaged, or living together. They are considered a social unit, it’s “rude” to break them up, regardless of who they’ll know 🙂
Post # 6
I agree. Married, engaged or long-term couples should have a plus one. However, It isn’t necessary to give single coworkers one.
Post # 7
You shouldn’t really ever have different classes of guests. There’s a polite fiction that goes on in society, that one keeps business *out* of one’s social life. Hence, any “colleagues” you invite are being invited because they are “part of your social circle” quite regardless of the business they happen to be in. And that being the case, you don’t treat them any differently than you do any other members of your social circle.
Proper formal protocol requires that all married persons be invited with their spouse; and that if anyone who is engaged is invited, that their fiance be invited also. If you follow that rule with everybody else, you must follow it with your colleagues — um, I mean, your social peers who happen to work at the same place that you do.
If you have to cut back, do it by not inviting boyfriends and girlfriends whom you don’t know, from BOTH your co-worker and non-coworker groups of friends.