(Closed) Is it okay to leave a bachelor/bachelorette party early? — poll

posted 4 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it ever okay to leave a bachelor/bachelorette party early?
    No. Stay the whole time. It's unacceptable to leave early : (4 votes)
    16 %
    It's typically pretty rude, but would be acceptable in your case : (3 votes)
    12 %
    It's definately rude, but you should leave anyways : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Not rude at all, people should be free to leave when they want : (16 votes)
    64 %
    Other (comment) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You can 100% leave whenever you want to. The fact that you weren’t involved in the planning and its 4 hours aways.  Stay as long as you can and then head home. 

    I cant believe they sent 100 invites to a bachelor/bachelorette!! Thats an insane amount of ppl!

    Post # 3
    3037 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

    Did they reserve a room at the sushi place? How are 100+ people even going to “drink downtown” together? Strange. 

    Check out the sushi place…. some have non-sushi items. Even if it’s apetizers like chicken lettuce wraps (yum). 

    Did you check air b & b for a place to stay closer? if you wanted? 

    They’ll probably be upset if you leave early. But…. I’m not sure I’d let that stop me. I’m not into any of those things either and I’d probably be miserable attending. So… i’d probably leave.

    Post # 4
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I personally wouldn’t even go, best man or not. Kinda random but are you going to Ballpark Village? If so you literally won’t even see each other with the thousand plus people there and driving is a literal nightmare on game days, even more so in postseason, which I’m sure is true of everywhere. We had my bachelorette party there and the drinks are ridiculous. If it were me with that notice I would pass. 

    Post # 5
    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    amanda.417:  I just wouldn’t go…especially because you don’t have a hotel and nobody bothered to tell the best man about the accomodations? Out of 100 people I doubt you will be missed, and if you Fiance wants to have a night out with the groom maybe the two of them can have a separate ‘make up’ bach party.


    Post # 6
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    amanda.417:  The fact that you’re even GOING is good enough. Leave whenever you’d like. It is well within your rights. I don’t even see how it is possible to keep tabs on all the 100 people invited – granted, I’d assume a large portion of those 100 weren’t keeping every single weekend open for this party, so with the 2-3 days notice I’m figuring a lot of people just won’t go.

    Post # 8
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    amanda.417:  I understand. No it’s outside the stadium about a block away, but I would totally leave early then. Honestly you’ll probably get annoyed at how many yelling drunk people there are (especially if you don’t watch baseball) and I wouldn’t blame you for leaving early, I really doubt anyone would even notice. 

    Post # 9
    10 posts

    amanda.417:  Can you contact the groom and let him know that you can’t find a hotel room anywhere? Perhaps that could be an excuse – hey, I dont know if we can make it, the drive is really far and we can’t find a hotel room that we need to stay over. 

    How far from STL do you live? I think that would be a reasonable excuse. Also – 100+ people, wtf? We have 94 people at our wedding, lol. 

    Post # 10
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I think you can leave whenever you want, especially considering how it’s going to be such a shitshow.

    But don’t throw a hissy fit about the sushi place.  Have you ever been to one??  They have terriyaki chicken and all sorts of other non-fish stuff.  Don’t “eat beforehand and just sit through dinner ugh” like a party-pooper…

    Post # 11
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee

    I still think it’s ok to not go at all. As a PP noted, let the groom know there are no hotels and finding another is outside your budget, and you received the invitation at the very last minute which makes rearranging your schedules difficult.

    Post # 12
    2707 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    lolot:  +1 

    amanda.417:  leave whenever you’d like, but don’t make things awkward at dinner by refusing to eat and eating beforehand. Surely there is something on the menu you can eat, since it isn’t an allergy issue. Otherwise you just make yourselves seem close minded or difficult. 

    Post # 13
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Surely you can expand your horizons ever so slightly to not be ignorant and rude at a sushi restaurant. Unbenownst to you, there are plenty of things on offer that do not come from the ocean.

    Alternately, why go at all? Its 4 hours away, you were given no notice, and it sounds like its going to be a shitshow. I wouldn’t go, I don’t do things without being given sufficient notice. Its rude to throw things at people last minute that require travel.

    Post # 14
    2837 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    amanda.417:  Ha.  This sounds so unorganized- were you guys even given a heads up on the date?

    I’d bail early in a heartbeat- especially that you’re driving so far and they were rude enough to ASK FOR MONEY to plan the party….but not a heads up to book hotel rooms?  

    To be quite honest, I’d be peeved.  FI is the best man– where are all of the other groomsmen staying?  Sound like Maid/Matron of Honor is selfish, at best.


    Leave when you feel comfortable, and don’t feel bad atbout it all!

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