(Closed) Is it okay to not have a wedding registry?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
1688 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We’re not registering anywhere with the hope that people will get the hint and give us money haha. most of our guests are travelling, so they’ll likely by happy not to bring a boxed gift.

Post # 3
10282 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Of course it’s okay! Personally I prefer when couples register because I like to give a physical gift but if there’s nothing that you need then there’s no point in registering for things you don’t need. People will probably mostly just give cash instead of physical gifts.

However, if you are having a shower I would HIGHLY recommend registering. Physical gifts are given at showers and it will be much easier on your guests (and result in less repeat gifts for you) if you register.

Post # 4
47412 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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camette:  You do not need a registry. It does help guests who want to give you a physical gift, otherwsie you may end up with a number of things that are really not your taste.

Do you need upgrades for anything you already own?

If there is no registry, a number of your guests will default to cash or check.

Post # 5
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

We had everything so i registered for formal china and crystal. I was going to skip it but some people like to give boxed gifts esp fpr showers etc and you dont want a lot of unnecessary items youll have to return. Register for things you wouldnt buy yourself or upgrades of current items, youd be surprised there is some cool stuff out there esp at Williams sonoma 🙂

Post # 6
14040 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’t need to register.  A small registry, or no registry, tells your guests that you want cash.  You may get some random physical gifts, and if you don’t have a registry, I’d skip the shower and have a bridal luncheon with no gifts.

Post # 7
1991 posts
Buzzing bee

We aren’t registering. We don’t need anything homey things for our place.

Post # 8
1242 posts
Bumble bee

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camette:  We didn’t have a registry. When people asked about it, we told them we didn’t have a registry. If they kept pushing the issue, we said we were trying to save for new furniture. That was enough for them to get the hint. We got cash, gift cards, and a few tangible gifts. It worked out fine. 🙂

Post # 9
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

we are putting on our website that we’d appreciate help with our honeymoon. we already live together so there is no point of a registry 

Post # 10
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You can ask guests to donate to a charity instead? I think the problem with not having any sort of registry is that people are going to want to get you things anyway.. and then you’ll end up with a bunch of things you don’t want or need and can’t return. I think giving them an option, like donating to a charity or gifting you with activities for your honeymoon is a good alternative. 

Post # 11
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Are you having a shower? If so and you don’t register, you are going to end up with a ton of things you don’t need or want.

Post # 12
910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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camette:  I would create a small registry. Not everyone feels comfortable giving cash as a gift. A small registry will allow these guests to buy you something that you can actually use. Otherwise you might end up with stuff you really do not Need and possibly cannot return. 

I would consider items to maybe upgrade- toaster, coffee maker, iron, pots, pans, sheets, luggage?????

Post # 13
6237 posts
Bee Keeper

We don’t do showers in the uk. We arent registering. 

Post # 14
9565 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you’re having a shower I would make a registry or else you will get random stuff. For the wedding, just skip it. You’ll end up with mostly checks. It’s definitely not rude to skip the registry though!

Post # 15
3606 posts
Sugar bee

I struggled with this question and ended up making one, but only because I’m having a shower. I wouldn’t have made one just for the wedding because we prefer checks and I think that’s what our guests would prefer to give us.

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