(Closed) Is it okay to not purchase anything off the baby registry?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Your gift, though not on the registry, sounds very useful! What’s not generally very useful I think most mothers will just return and get. I personally tend to be a registery person… because mothers sped a ton of time putting those together.

Your gift sounds great! Very useful. But I have to ask.. is all of that really cheaper then the items on the registry? I only ask cause everything you are gifting sounds like it would be just as expensive, but is multiple items verse just one item! just curious!! but great idea :]

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have been to many weddings and baby showers and I have yet to purchase anything off a registry. I will not even look at them. I like to give cash for wedding gifts and unique but useful baby gifts.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your gift is usually the kind of thing I get expectant mothers. I actually hesitate to get the big-ticket items off the registry, because I’ve seen duplicates happen at baby showers, usually when someone forgets or doesn’t know to explain that they’re purchasing off of a registry (or they shop elsewhere for the gift). And, while the mother-to-be can always return my gift, I just remove the hassle of it and purchase things they can always use more of!

I mean, I’ve never heard “my baby can’t spit up on enough of these things”, you know? Even if a couple other people get bibs or cloths, I often hear parents talking about how they’re so glad to have a lot of backups handy.

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Generally I am an advocate for using the registry, but your basket sounds great. My big pet peeve is when people don’t buy off the registry and gift some useless stuff like tutu’s and infant shoes. Even though your friend did not register for the small items you mentioned, she will still need them, so you are definetely helping her out even without using the registry.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@sarabee:  Oh sweetie I think your gift sounds perfect! That’s what I usually do for baby showers, too – diapers, wipes, and a few other little things. Those are really what will be useful for your friend and her family.

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think your gift is great! I’ve gifted off registry before, and its been well received. Your gift is thoughtful AND practical. I see no issue.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

seeing as we don’t have baby registries in the UK (or I’ve never seen one used!), i think your gift sounds amazing and very generous! I normally buy my friend’s babies a small gift or toy.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think your plan is perfect 🙂 That is what I normally do!

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sarabee:  
 I agree that the basket you are doing sounds lovely. One suggestion I have, that I ALWAYS gift to new parents, and as an expecting mom myself would love to get, bathtime ‘duck’ or another animal. I normally buy them at Sears, but I believe they have them at walmart and babies r us also. They are about $5-$6 and have a thermometer on the bottom, so you can see how warm the water is. They are very useful, and become a great toy as baby gets older. Every parent I’ve gifted one to has thanked me for it. It’s not a thought about item.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sarabee:  As someone with a baby shower coming up, I am here to say I think what you did is just fine and incredibly thoughtful. I would never want one of my friends being worried about financial strains just to get something off the registry. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What you got her is very nice but when I cant afford items from a registry, I buy a gift card. People put stuff on the registry because that is stuff they want or need. Still, it is not your financial responsibility so you can really give whatever you want or you can help out in other ways if money is tight. I think it would also be nice to offer babysitting or a homecooked meal while mom is recooperating!

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Of course it’s okay! Gifts are gifts–it is totally up to you what you feel comfortable and appropriate giving and can afford. 

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think your gift was very nice!

I can’t imagine how it was all less than $30 combined though? I’ve never shopped for baby things so maybe I just have no clue!

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Some people put the big ticket items on the registry gor the completion discount and do not expect their shower guests to get it for them anyway. If you don’t see a bunch of smaller, low cost items could be because they have already purchased them. Often mother’s research the heck out everything they buy, so be sure to provide a gift receipt in case your carefully selected items are not what the mom had in mind.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@MexiPino:  Thats such a great idea! I love this, and I might steal it 😉

None of my friends insisted on having anyone buy anything specific from the registry for the reasons pp’s have mentioned, they also get a discount for adding those items.

I’ve been doing the same type of thing as @lia, as I’ve been crocheting scarf and hat sets for winter babies around me! I find new moms are very appreciative at having all of those little items you mentioned,  I also think your gift in very thoughtful, and that’s what the important thing is 🙂

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