(Closed) Is it okay to send a holiday card after sending STD's?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The two are unrelated so I don’t see why you can’t send an STD and a holiday car. You can also certainly send cards out as a couple. And his parents can continue to send family cards to their friends. My mother in law includes photo’s of us as a family, and usually a photo of Darling Husband and I, as well as my SIL and her husband. Remember their kids are their pride and joy, whether they are married or not, and they want their friends to see what their children have been up to.


Post # 4
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Meant2Bee:  You do not need to talk to your FI’s mother before sending holiday cards. Your Fiance is her son, so naturally she’s going to include something about him in her holiday cards. 

Holiday cards and all wedding correspondence (STDs, invitations, etc) are separate. If you want to send holiday cards, by all means, do it! 🙂 I love holiday cards and I enjoy getting them, especially from my newly engaged/married friends. Receiving cards through snail mail is one thing I hope never goes away.

I will say, if you put an e-picture on your STD, you should use a different one on your holiday cards. That way you’re not repeating anything for people who receive both. Plus your friends and family will enjoy seeing more pictures of how happy you two are. 

Post # 5
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Go for it!  I would love to get a holiday card especially if a pic was included.  I think its thoughtful and festive.  In fact, I wish more people did it. 


As for your Mother-In-Law, its probably time that she stop including your Fiance.  Just let her know you are sending holiday cards from both of you and you are really looking forward to starting this tradition.  She could easily write “Jim, Sue & Family”.  I don’t think I would specifically tell her “Don’t include Timmy’s name” but hopefully she’ll get the hint when you tell her you will be sending your own. 


Best wishes!

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