Is it okay to send invites a bit earlier?

posted 9 months ago in Logistics
Post # 2
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

So there are two potential downsides of sending them earlier, depending on when you set the RSVP by date. If you send the RSVP by date too early, then people might not be able to commit yet. If you set it too late, then people might forget to RSVP since they know they have a couple of months to get back.

That being said- I don’t think that 3-4 months is THAT early. Usually like 6+ months ahead would be what I would consider being “too early” for wedding invites. Another consideration in your case is that since your wedding is in Feb it probably couldn’t hurt to send out slightly earlier than the guidelines in order to get yours out before the holiday card rush. 

Post # 3
2558 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

The absolute earliest I would send is 12 weeks (so 3 months). I think 4 months is too early. 

Post # 4
1593 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I actually think it is a good idea given the holidays. If somebody wants to attend, then they will block the time and rsvp.

Post # 5
3093 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Sending invitations out 6 months out seems to be kind of the norm where I live.

Post # 6
5925 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t mind early invitations, but I hate early RSVP deadlines. Send the invite whenever you want, but keep the RSVP deadline close to the wedding. 

Post # 7
2220 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

CloverBells :  So, we sent electronic STDs 

We are having a destination wedding, and there is international travel involved. I know a lot of my guests need plenty of time to plan and budget, plus I was trying to get a clearer sense of who might be relatively sure they WEREN’T coming.

I didn’t want to spend the money or effort on paper Save-The-Date Cards but I created a template on E-vite and sent them around to my guests. Everyone got back to me right away and it let people have lots of lead time to consider whether they want to try and make it or not. 

Admittedly I have a tech savvy group, but it’s something to consider. Otherwise I agree that 3-3/5 months is fine. 

Post # 8
1775 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I was also going to suggest e-mailing the save the dates. That way you can send them early and they won’t cost you anything. 

Post # 9
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

CloverBells :  If i were you i would have made a very simple budget friendly STD , it’s always good to know when a big event is happening! I would send out emails and give people notice LIKE NOW! so they can figure out if they will be free that time of the month so when they get the invitations they wont come off completely surprised and had wished there was some sort of earlier notice. 

Post # 10
712 posts
Busy bee

Just e-mail save the dates.. We e-mailed save-the-dates and invitations, it was free, easy, people responded much quicker then they would have with a paper invite. There were a couple of people we still sent paper invites and gave phone calls too (grandma!) but most people loved the e-mail versions

Post # 11
112 posts
Blushing bee

I think 3-4 months for invites are fine. 6-8 weeks for invitations is a little short, I probably wouldn’t make it – especially if there’s no save the date. Send save the dates through email. I will probably send save the date 5 months before the date. Then send the invitations 3 months before the date. Gives people time to respond and I will be assigning tables so I want enough time to figure it out.

Post # 12
49 posts

jellybellynelly :  How early is too early for an RSVP deadline in your opinion? 

Post # 14
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I didn’t do save the dates either, so I sent the invites out 5 months in advance. I think 3 months isn’t enough time if people don’t have a heads up. I should add that there was nothing early about my RSVP date though. I don’t see any harm in people having the invite on their fridge for a month or two longer. What difference could it make?

Post # 15
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

CloverBells :  I would rethink mentioning the date in your Christmas letter this year… I would find it strange to hear about an event in February 2020 before February 2019 had passed. 

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