Post # 1
So we are getting married at the end of February 2020 and will not be sending Save the Dates for budget reasons. Is it therefore okay to send our invitations a bit earlier (like 3-4 months ahead)? Or is this a bad idea? I don’t want people to forget details/lose the invite or something. What are the downsides of sending them earlier versus the standard 6-8 weeks?
(Also for our traveling relatives and friends, we’re going to include the date and location of the wedding on our Christmas card this year. So I guess a sort-of Save the Date.)
Post # 2
So there are two potential downsides of sending them earlier, depending on when you set the RSVP by date. If you send the RSVP by date too early, then people might not be able to commit yet. If you set it too late, then people might forget to RSVP since they know they have a couple of months to get back.
That being said- I don’t think that 3-4 months is THAT early. Usually like 6+ months ahead would be what I would consider being “too early” for wedding invites. Another consideration in your case is that since your wedding is in Feb it probably couldn’t hurt to send out slightly earlier than the guidelines in order to get yours out before the holiday card rush.
Post # 3
The absolute earliest I would send is 12 weeks (so 3 months). I think 4 months is too early.
Post # 4
I actually think it is a good idea given the holidays. If somebody wants to attend, then they will block the time and rsvp.
Post # 5
Sending invitations out 6 months out seems to be kind of the norm where I live.
Post # 6
I don’t mind early invitations, but I hate early RSVP deadlines. Send the invite whenever you want, but keep the RSVP deadline close to the wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: Chateau Lake Louise
CloverBells : So, we sent electronic STDs
We are having a destination wedding, and there is international travel involved. I know a lot of my guests need plenty of time to plan and budget, plus I was trying to get a clearer sense of who might be relatively sure they WEREN’T coming.
I didn’t want to spend the money or effort on paper Save-The-Date Cards but I created a template on E-vite and sent them around to my guests. Everyone got back to me right away and it let people have lots of lead time to consider whether they want to try and make it or not.
Admittedly I have a tech savvy group, but it’s something to consider. Otherwise I agree that 3-3/5 months is fine.
Post # 8
I was also going to suggest e-mailing the save the dates. That way you can send them early and they won’t cost you anything.
Post # 9
CloverBells : If i were you i would have made a very simple budget friendly STD , it’s always good to know when a big event is happening! I would send out emails and give people notice LIKE NOW! so they can figure out if they will be free that time of the month so when they get the invitations they wont come off completely surprised and had wished there was some sort of earlier notice.
Post # 10
Just e-mail save the dates.. We e-mailed save-the-dates and invitations, it was free, easy, people responded much quicker then they would have with a paper invite. There were a couple of people we still sent paper invites and gave phone calls too (grandma!) but most people loved the e-mail versions
Post # 11
I think 3-4 months for invites are fine. 6-8 weeks for invitations is a little short, I probably wouldn’t make it – especially if there’s no save the date. Send save the dates through email. I will probably send save the date 5 months before the date. Then send the invitations 3 months before the date. Gives people time to respond and I will be assigning tables so I want enough time to figure it out.
Post # 12
jellybellynelly : How early is too early for an RSVP deadline in your opinion?
Post # 13
jellybellynelly : Just curious as to why you dislike early RSVP deadlines?
Post # 14
I didn’t do save the dates either, so I sent the invites out 5 months in advance. I think 3 months isn’t enough time if people don’t have a heads up. I should add that there was nothing early about my RSVP date though. I don’t see any harm in people having the invite on their fridge for a month or two longer. What difference could it make?
Post # 15
CloverBells : I would rethink mentioning the date in your Christmas letter this year… I would find it strange to hear about an event in February 2020 before February 2019 had passed.