(Closed) Is it okay to throw your own Bridal Party?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Can you throw your own Bridal Party?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    26 %
    No : (37 votes)
    74 %
  • Post # 3
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I don’t think you are supposed to throw your own shower, but you could host a pre-weddding tea there if you wanted.

    If you don’t need gifts, just have whoever hosts your shower put a “no gifts please” clause on the invite. YOu can ask guests to bring a favorite recipe or to write down a piece of marital advice instead, and then have fun at the party reading the advice.

    Post # 4
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think throwing your own shower is a little gift grabby.

    However, a bridesmaid’s luncheon with the addition of some close family members sounds more like what you’re planning.  I think if you’re taking them out for high tea to thank them for their support that’s perfectly fine.

    Post # 5
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you don’t want gifts, I wouldn’t call it a shower.  The point of a Bridal Shower is to ‘shower’ the couple with gifts.

    Post # 6
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would say no.  These things are done by your Maid/Matron of Honor or relatives on either side of the families. 

    You could do the tea thing with your bridemaids and others if you want a few days before the wedding.  I plan on taking my girls out for lunch before the big day.

    Post # 8
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yeah this is considered a gift grab.  Why don’t you let your Maid/Matron of Honor know about the tea room and your idea, i’m sure she’d think that was helpful.  Or talk to your relatives and see if they aren’t already working on something for you.  If not suggest the tea room.  


    Post # 10
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it is fine if you indicate on the invitation that you don’t want them to bring gifts, or ask for something like a recipe in lieu of gifts. Also I would call it something else, like perhaps just a bridal tea. 

    Post # 11
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @AlishaKay: You can have a bachelorette and not go to bars. We did a hiking trip for mine!

    Post # 13
    423 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I voted no because I thought you were talking about a shower, but a bridal party tea or something is fine!

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