Is it okay to wear a white dress with a blue pattern to a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
3228 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Depends on the wedding. It would great outside during the day but an evening wedding it’s probably too casual.

Post # 17
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I don’t see a problem with it.  I wore an ivory sweater with a blue skirt to a wedding once and think it is ok as long as your not totally wearing all white.  Today even black is appropriate as long as it not a statement from the MOG. My mom and my FI’ s mom are deceased.  My Fiance has a step mom she told me she understood her job was to “shut up and wear beige”.  That’s what her DIL told her when her son got married.  I told her I did not feel that way and she could wear whatever she wanted.  

Post # 18
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I honestly don’t understand these threads.


how hard is it to wear a dress with no white on it for ONE DAY.

Post # 19
10997 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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natalielh :  

You’re fine.  Though it may be a bit casual, so the type of wedding will be the determining variable.

Post # 20
1525 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I wouldn’t wear it, you’ll definitely get some side-eye and it looks a little too casual for a wedding. Also, it doesn’t look like a wedding dress, but it isn’t nice to the bride either. 

Post # 21
5015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think its perfectly appropriate and looks gorgeous on you.  I also feel the tradition of wearing white has decreased some as the variety of colors for wedding dresses has greatly widened. I feel the “no wearing ANY white” as a guest rule doesn’t truly apply anymore. 

Post # 22
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I think it and you both look fantastic. I have no idea why people continue to think that you can’t wear any white. Maybe just a lot of “princess” brides out there. You would totally be welcome to my wedding in that dress! And no one would side eye you. They would all just say how great you looked! 

Post # 23
2090 posts
Buzzing bee

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natalielh :  I think it’s a cute dress, but do you see some of the responses you’re getting here? Well, imagine people you actually *know* whispering those things about you as you walk by. Some people are just way too up-tight and have archaic views about wedding attire, so err on the side of caution and wear something with no/very little white. 


I think you should still get that dress though for maybe a different occasion. It looks amazing on you!

Post # 24
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I don’t think the point of not wearing white comes down to mistaking a guest as the bride, I think it comes from a place of respect for the bride, allowing her to have this one special color for one day. I personally would never wear that to a wedding, but I wouldn’t care if someone wore it to mine. 

Post # 25
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

The tradition is for guests not to wear white dresses or outfits so that the bride stands out.  That is not a white dress, its a patterned one, so yes it is perfectly acceptable.

Post # 26
748 posts
Busy bee

We’re planning a 20 person guest list. If someone showed up wearing that my family would side eye hard! If there’s 50+ guests it might be ok. 

Post # 27
296 posts
Helper bee

I don’t understand why people get so hung up on a yard of white fabric when the spouses are celebrating their love and committing themselves to each other for the rest of their lives. People are there to attend a deep spiritual/sacred ceremony to honor that commitment, not to gossip about how Anne was dressed and oh did you see how fat Janine got?

Post # 28
725 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I wouldn’t mind if you wore it to my wedding, but my older, more traditional family members would probably judge you a little bit. It all depends on what type of person you are. I personally don’t like taking risks, so I wouldn’t wear it, but only you know the people in attendance. 

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