(Closed) Is it outdated for men to give up their seats on the bus to women?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Should men give up their seats on the bus for women?
    No way, this is super outdated : (31 votes)
    11 %
    It is polite, but not expected : (87 votes)
    30 %
    If men and women are getting on at the same stop then the man should let the woman have his seat : (29 votes)
    10 %
    Only for visibly pregnant or older women : (109 votes)
    37 %
    Always! : (24 votes)
    8 %
    Whoever gets to the stop first should get the seat : (13 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t think it is necessary but it sure is still a nice touch. I was always impressed when I’d see it on public transit.

    I do think younger people should give up their seats for much older/elderly people and obviously pregnant women.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    @ivoryowl:  no. Also everyone should stand for the elderly.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’d expect ANYONE including myself to give up their seat to a pregnant woman or an elderly person, not just men. But no, I honestly wouldn’t expect a random guy on a bus to give up his seat to me just because of my gender and would probably feel slightly uncomfortable if someone did (you know, unless it’s like my husband or someone I know). But that’s just me. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I don’t think it’s necessary for men to give seats for women, exactly. I’m an everyday transit user and I find it so frustrating when people do not give up their seats for the elderly (women or men), someone with a mobility issue, pregnant women, or people with small children. I think it’s wonderfully polite when a guy chooses to give me his seat, but I don’t expect it and wouldn’t find it offensive if a man didn’t offer me his seat, but I get pissed when everyone is just sitting around when someone who clearly needs the seat comes on. Where I live, there’s often racial dimensions to it, too, where people give up seats for older white women and not for similarly-aged women of other races.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    It suggests simply being a woman is akin to not being of sound body.  Please.

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yeah I think they stopped that when feminism came into vogue.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t think that I’m entitled to a sit because I have a vagina.

    And everyone (men AND women) should give up sits for the elderly and pregnant women.

    Post # 13
    Member
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    yes, that’s totally unnecessary. And men don’t offer seats to healthy women in my city… it would just be weird for everyone. 

    But it is still a good idea for us all to offer for someone weaker, senior, injured, unwell, pregnant, or a child.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2470 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I actually saw a young man do this on my bus last week.

    It was a very full bus, and a seat near him was vacated at one of the stops. Instead of just plopping his bum into it like most men would, he courteously offered it to the ladies standing around him first. Major brownie points in my book.

    I don’t find it insulting in the slightest. On the contrary, I find it to be a lovely gesture of respect and deference. It always makes me all warm and fuzzy inside when we are out and I see Fiance offer up his seat to a woman who is standing.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    @ivoryowl:  men stand for women and women accept even if we don’t want to.

    Post # 16
    Member
    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Uhhhh, I don’t know.  It’s like women want to be treated equally until they don’t anymore.  I open my own doors, if there’s no seat, I stand, it’s not something tat crosses my mind….and if a guy I don’t know tries to be chivalrous….it makes me uncomfortable.

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