(Closed) Is it Poor taste….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it poor taste to register for gifts, if only having a private wedding ceremony for family?
    Yes : (18 votes)
    33 %
    Yes, because... : (2 votes)
    4 %
    No : (25 votes)
    45 %
    Not sure... : (10 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I voted not sure; generally I would say no, but in particular if you have some people coming from far away, it might be a nice idea.  If you do decide to have one, I would keep it small.

    Congrats and good luck!

    Post # 4
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    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If the people invited will ask where you’re registered, it’s totally okay to have a small  registry and give them a straight answer for when they ask.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If you do I would only recommend letting the people actually invited to the wedding know where you are registered. It will seem kind of selfish to ask for gifts but not invite the others to the wedding

    Post # 6
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    2716 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t think it’s in poor taste!  However, I would definitely keep it small ( <50 things) and only at 1 store.  It would be in poor taste to have a huge registry or multiple ones.

    Post # 7
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    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Our guest list is 25 people, and we didnt register.  A lot were surprised we didn’t.  If you want to register go shoot some barcodes in the mall.

    Post # 9
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    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Oops I voted wrong! I meant to vote No but I voted yes.  I don’t see why the amount of people invited matters.  Registries are a suggested list of things you need/like, not a demand or expectation to buy them.  

    Post # 10
    Member
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    registers help keep track of what has already been purchased. as long as you still have a various price ranges available it is fine.

    Post # 12
    Member
    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I only had about 30 people at my wedding and I registered.  There were alot of inexpensive gifts on there.  It was just something that we wanted around the house.

    I didn’t care either way what we got from people, if we got anything at all.  I only created the registry for the people who wanted to get us something but didn’t really know what to get. 

    As long as you keep the registry small and on the less pricey side then I would have to say that it is a good idea to have one. 

    Post # 13
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    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It depends on your family as to whether you even need one. I don’t think it’s in poor taste, although like in every registry, I would do a huge variety of price points and not just assume that since they’re close family members that they would do a huge gift. That being said, the reason why I say you may not even need one is that all of our very close family members all gave us cash at our wedding even though we had two registries. FWIW, I didn’t have a bridal shower. It may be helpful to have a small registry if you do a shower.

    Like others have mentioned, I would not share registry information with those not invited unless they specifically ask and want to gift despite not being invited. For example, a friend of ours had a small destination wedding with just family, but her family’s neighbors (having watched her grow up) and her mother’s colleagues all wanted to give a gift anyway.

    Post # 14
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    1292 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I registred but didn’t tell anyone about it except for my mom. If someone wants to buy me a present, they can search on Macy’s regsitry and find me (very popular with my group)

    I actually don’t want/need anything at all, I just registered for fun and also it’s been nice to have a list of all the things I want. I can see when they go on sale and pick them up myself if I want 😉
    I had several people ask if I was registerd and I did tell them Macys, but only after they asked.

    Post # 15
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    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think you should register anyway. People are going to want to buy you gifts whether they’re invited or not! Strange, I know, but we had a few people do that for us; that’s how we got our luggage for our honeymoon 🙂

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