Post # 1
The man I intend to marry is not circumcised…I don’t really know why, I guess his mum thought it would be too painful or something. All the guys I have been with before him were cut. The cut version just looks and feels alot better in my opinion, and is much more hygienic. Seeing the head exposed when a guy’s member is flacid and hes walking around naked is a major turn on for me. I have also been told that if he got circumcised he would lose sensitivity down there, which is a good thing because it will probably make him last longer in bed. I honestly dont know if I can be with an uncircumcised guy for the rest of my life. How could I convince him to get the operation done?
Post # 3
@Cryptic: Frankly, I think that asking him to get circumcised as an adult is REALLY not a great idea. Circumcision is a personal decision and asking him to get a painful surgery just so you enjoy him better is only in your interest. Studies have been done that state that uncircumcised men can be as hygenic as circumcised men simply by washing under their foreskin in the shower. Not a difficult thing to do.
I think you need to rethink your expectations of circumcision and realize what a huge decision you would be pushing him to do.
Post # 4
@Cryptic: I don’t want to be a downer, but you probably can’t. Its something he’d have to decide to do on his own, and honestly- he’ll probably be offended if you try to make him. As far as the hygiene goes, there is no reason for an uncircumcised man to be unhygenic, you can always encourage him to take more showers… and there are plenty of ways to encourage that 😉
Post # 5
@Cryptic: How would you feel if your SO asked you to get a cosmetic operation on your clitoris that would make it more aesthetically appealing to him but would cause you to lose sexual sensitivity?
Post # 6
Please drop this. Do you really want the man you love to get a painful and unnecessary procedure so you find him slightly more attractive naked and he can last an extra 30 seconds in bed?
Post # 7
A demand like this is really quite abusive. What you’re asking for is essencially genital mutilation. If you’re questioning you’re ability to stay with him over something so aesthetic, perhaps you should be considering your choice to get married; Your fiance probably will once you ask him.
Post # 8
I think this man deserves someone who loves him as he is. Asking someone to have surgery – particularly this type of surgery – is completely out of line. As others have said, how would you feel?
Also, you are somewhat misinformed about circumcision. Perhaps you could do some research on the topic. If you can’t be attracted to him as he is, you both should find someone else.
Post # 9
Imagine a guy saying “size 36D boobs are such a turn on for me, I want my wife to get implants because I don’t think I can be with someone with B cups for the rest of my life”… sounds pretty shallow. It would be pretty devastating to find out the person you think loves you unconditionally actually doesn’t think they can stay with you forever because of some small physical attribute. I think you should look into your heart and see if you really DO love this man unconditionally, which it doesn’t sound like you do, then decide to either accept this small “flaw” or move on.
Post # 10
Oh boy….I wouldn’t ask. You might make him insecure about his manly parts for the rest of his life. Honestly, I think it’s a pretty painful surgery as an adult. I don’t think any grown man would opt to do it for cosmetic reasons…not sure if a doctor would either. I think you’re going to have to learn to live with him how he is–or move on.
Post # 11
I prefer circumsized, and Danny, thankfully for me, is…but if he wasn’t, I would NEVER ask him to do it!! It’s HIS body, you shouldn’t expect him to change it just for you! If Danny asked me to cosmetically alter my appearance just because he doesn’t find something on me aesthetically pleasing, (I’m NOT condoning abuse, but) he’d probably get slapped. That’s shallow, and mean, and selfish and just…wrong. I’m sorry, but this is something I just can’t be polite about, this upsets me so much. This poor guy.
Post # 12
I would just forget about this and get over it
Post # 13
I would never ask my Darling Husband to undergo surgery so that he owuld look more aesthetically pleasing to me. That’s just wrong.
You also seem to be quite uninformed about circumcision. Uncircumsized men are no less clean than circumsized men.
Post # 14
I’d get over it, especially if he hasn’t expressed an interest in having it done. Adult circumcision is an extremely painful procedure and there’s risk of complications that will interfere with his sexual performance for the rest of his life. If you demand he have this procedure, you will probably appear very shallow.
Post # 15
Tell him you wrote this on a post:
I honestly dont know if I can be with an uncircumcised guy for the rest of my life. How could I convince him to get the operation done?
Then: wait for the door to shut behind him.
I dont know how nice it is to say this to him, if you dont think you can be with a man in his condition, then dont marry him and be miserable or make him miserable either.
Post # 16
I’m sorry, saying you are not sure if you can live with an uncircumcised man for the rest of your life is incredibly shallow and quite possibly a sign you are no where near ready for marriage.