Post # 63
You ask if it is possible to convince him to be circumcised? Yes of course it is possible which does not make it a certainty. It is best to arrive at this determination PRIOR to the wedding. You have to sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel about a foreskin covered penis. Your health, your preferences including how you feel about how an always exposed glans and visually being always ready for you appeals to you. You can tell him that if he ever wants oral sex he must have this done because there is no way you will consider him putting his foreskin covered glans into your mouth in this life time.
Frankly what you are dealing with is his Parents lack of consideration to you in not having had this done when he was an infant. They postponed the decision and you are left to deal with the problem today.
As a joint consumer of his penis’s sexual activity you certainly have a say in what you prefer, what you desire and what you will permit. He must consider your preferences in his decision to comply or not the same way you have to consider if you wish to marry him or not. Many Women consider this a deal breaker and you are not by any means alone. The voices of opposition here will not make you have to grin and bare it when the very idea makes you retch in disgust.
Keep in mind that you could loose him over this but if he preferes his foreskin more than he loves you it is best to find out this now and not when it is too late to negotiate. The converse is true he may wish to negotiate specific rights from you as to a minimum sexual schedule or say keeping your pubic hair trimmed or removed – he is also entitled to negotiate and yes oral sex for him is on the table as a negotiating point as well. You can negotiate anything and getting him circumcised is certainly negotiable, as long as you are prepared to pay the price to get what you want or what you feel you are entitled to or even require.
There is also the practicality to consider – it takes about four to six weeks to recover fully from an adult circumcision. He will not be sexually available during his recovery. Like I said CUT your deal with him BEFORE you get married to him not afterwards. What ever deal you cut be it for oral sex or a minimum sexual schedule of x times per week – make darn certain you live up to your deal or he will make you misserable and reneging on the deal will cost you in many other ways. Fair is fair and to get something you have to give something.
Like I said earlier, it was his Parents fault this was not seen to when he was an infant, now the ball has been kicked down field and you have to deal with it.
Post # 62
Circumcision is not an infirmity. Circumcised men are not sexual cripples and yes the fact remains that some Women highly prefer their partners to be circumcsed.
I honestly believe everything can be negotiated if you are willing to pay the price.
Let the negotiations begin.
Post # 63
1) this thread is 3 years old.
2) it’s pretty twisted to use sex as a bargaining tool for elective surgery. Ahh romance!
Post # 64
david.busi.33: Holy crap this thread is 3 years old. And really, using sex as a bargaining chip to chop off his foreskin? Gag.
Post # 65
It’s fine to have an aesthetic deal-breaker, but you shouldn’t have gotten so serious with him if it’s going to be a deal-breaker.
Post # 66
david.busi.33: If a woman finds it a deal breaker then she should leave the relationship rather than body shame her partner into getting an unneccessary body modification. I am not even going to touch the bartering for sex crap but dude get some therapy.
Post # 67
Cryptic: Edit: Just saw that this thread was 3 years old.
Post # 68
I agree so I think you don’t deserve this man that’s discussing thing to ask him to mutilate his genitals for your silly idea of normal. Even if he aagrees this means he is a very weak man do you want that.
Mine is cut your wrong it looks scarred and wrong actually in my experience natural men are better in bed have more control over themselves and feel much better themselves and me, would you get a female circumcision take for him away half your pleasure for him?
Post # 69
Ugh.. why do people even care about this kind of thing.
When it’s inside you, you don’t notice the difference anyway 😀
Post # 70
I’m aware that the original poster asked this 3 years ago.
With that said, to whoever that reads it now, CIRCUMCISION IS NOT BETTER. So shocked to actually read so many post agreeing that it is better.
The foreskin is there to PROTECT the head, it’s not unhygenic. It keeps the head moist with bacteria (good bacteria) to fend off other bad bacteria, just like our vaginas. and it actually helps lubricate during intercourse! It is there for a reason! You keep it clean by washing it and cleaning the smegma. Just as how woman need to keep our vaginas clean by washing it and wiping it dry. But don’t overwash it till it makes the skin raw.
If you don’t keep the foreskin or the vagina clean, they get infected! It’s the same logic.
Post # 71
MrsBuesleBee: I thought the response was a joke. Joint consumer of his penis (G)?
Post # 72
my goodness its always some “wannabee” that digs up a 3 year old thread and says something totally..outlandish (and causes the thread to end up getting closed bcus ppl have to call someone out on their crap)
I think circumcision is something ppl will never agree on – period. its possible for a man to snip later on in life but also more painful and by all means should not be a deal breaker imo. (although I personally prefer a circumcised penis, If my man didnt have one I would not be all up in arms about it) im not even gonna address the “Bargaining” thing, its just not worth it.