(Closed) Is it possible to have a baby AND be a student?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It is possible, but it isn’t easy.  I did it when my sons were young.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

A girl in my masters/specialist program had a baby during our first semester. She is going to be graduating on time with the rest of our cohort but it hasn’t beeen easy. She has tons of support here in town including both her parents and her FI’s parents and she has still struggled some. I suppose it will also depend on what program you are going to do. The program I am in requires an off site practicum and an entire year of an off site internship while taking classes at the same time! I cannot imagine finishing 74 credit hours and 1000 hours of internship while having a child- but that doesn’t mean that it’s not possible! If you and your husband decide that having a child is important to you then maybe you could do school part time? It will take you longer to finish but would be much less stressful! 🙂 

Post # 34
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I found out that I was pregnant the same day I got my acceptance letter for college and I just graduated in January.  I was able to do it as a single parent with support of family and friends.  Be prepared for some long nights but you can do it.  My daughter got read a lot of text books as bedtime stories her first year.  With family farther away that may be a challange but if you can build a nearby support network it will help out a lot. 

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It is certainly possible, but it is very difficult. I had a baby and worked full time and went to school but I had a lot of help. So not having much family to help will make it that much harder. But, if it’s something you really want you can make it work.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It very possible. It’s much more possible if you find an accredited online program from a brick and mortar insitution that allows you to do your homework on your own time.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m prego and my hubby and I are both working on advanced degrees. He’s in a Veterinary Medicine program and I’m in Engineering. We planned our pregnancy after evaluating our schedules/financial situation/10 yr plan. I definitely think it’s manageable…but maybe I’ll update in a year 😉

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s possible, but it’s not easy. You need a good support network. I had my daughter the summer before my last year of college. I actually took that year off because her father was working full-time and completing a full-time internship for his degree, so I was the only one who could be home with her. I eventually left him (he was a deadbeat after graduation) and moved in with my mom, who helped me out with the baby while I worked and took night classes at a nearby community college and transferred those courses to my 4-year school. I waitressed almost every day of the week and had three night classes each week. It was really hard, but doable. The key element was having that support. I found a daycare that wasn’t too expensive and paid for most of it with leftover financial aid funds, because my waitressing job barely covered our normal living expenses. I think it would have been easier if I had had a dependable spouse to help me out.

So, yes, it’s definitely possible to do. Just make sure you have a steady support network. And, in my experience, professors tend to not be sympathetic towards personal issues. In my first trimester, I was so tired I would constantly end up sleeping right through my alarm and my first class of the day. I ended up failing the first exam. I had never in my life failed an exam, and I went right to my prof’s office to explain myself. He was sympathetic — he had three kids under the age of 6 — but he also told me he expected me, basically, to suck it up and do better in the future. And when I was at the community college, my daughter got severely ill several times in one semester, and I kept having to miss a certain class because it tended to be at the same time as the only available appointment times at her pediatrician’s office. Even though I had excuses and documented evidence for each illness and appointment, and my schoolwork was more than acceptable, my prof failed me for poor attendance. I’m not saying all professors are hardasses about pregnancy and family stuff, but some might be, so watch out for that. It doesn’t make things any easier for you.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It is, but it will be as hard as hell.

Make sure you have a good and reliable friend and family network around you if you do plan to do this, because you will need them.

 

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