(Closed) Is it possible to marry in a church without being registered parishioners?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 2
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Before you can get the Catholic wedding, you need to do the pre-marital counseling.  Presuming you would do that where you live now and not back in Chicago, that would be a way to set up a relationship with a church you’d like to get married in.

I’d contact your home parish.  Have them get in touch with the church where you attend now.  They can probably help iron out the issues.  Your home church would eventually need to be contacted anyway – the church that marries you needs to know where you were baptized/confirmed so they can notify those locations to update their records.  Your Chicago priest shoudl have some advice.  You’re not the first person to move away for school and not re-register!  He’ll know the drill.

Out of curiosity, if you’re regularly attending church, why not just go ahead and register?  It’s usually a single form confirming you’re baptized etc. and asking your address so they can send you your monthly box of collection envelopes. 🙂  

Post # 3
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Depends on the vicar, you normally have to have a connection to the church in order to marry there.

Contact the local diocese? 

Post # 4
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is competely and totally the call of each parish.  But pp is right – your home church should be able to help facilitate.

Be aware that you may hit another snag – my parish (a Cathedral) won’t allow you to set a date for the wedding if you’ve already got the reception date set.  I’m not sure how other parishes deal with that.

Post # 5
4591 posts
Honey bee

penguin14 :  Not 100% sure here but don’t you just get a written permission from your home parish and bring it to the other parish were you wanna get married then they take it from there?

Post # 6
929 posts
Busy bee

Why dont you just register?

Post # 10
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I’d probably start with registering at the parish you’re attending.  I think you’re either going to need to be registered there or get in touch with your home parish (Chicago).  Are you planning on completing the marriage preparation requirements in MD or will your priest in Chicago do them long distance?

Are there any cathedrals near your reception venue you could book?  Your parish priest would have to fill out a form for you to be married there, but otherwise, I don’t think you’d run into quite the difficulties as with other local parishes.  


Post # 11
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Hello! I’m in a very similar situation. I’m a newly engaged Catholic from VA and my Fiancee is protestant from PA. I’m currently at a church close to school, but we were looking at churches in the Baltimore area closer to his family.  It turns out it’s very difficult to find a church that allowed non-parishioners in the time frame we were looking at. 

I ended up deciding to go with my home church in Northern VA, only to find out I forgot to register there as an adult! Luckily I received all my sacraments there, so they ought to have all the paperwork.  Getting married in the Catholic Church is quite a process, haha.   

Message me if you want to talk Catholic Churches and Reception Venues in Virginia! laughing

Post # 12
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

penguin14 :  It depends on the Church but my husband and I weren’t registered parishoners at the church we were married at.

Post # 13
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

penguin14 :  I wasn’t insinuating that this is an issue only with Cathedrals.  What I’m saying is that a lot of priests don’t like it when you plan the date of the reception and then go shopping for a place to have the ceremony.  They perceive that your priorities are not what they should be.  

Just saying be aware that this is an issue you may face.  

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