Post # 1
My Fiance has been talking about getting a motorcycle for years, and I was thinking of getting him one as a wedding gift. The one I know he wants is only $4-5k. The wedding is almost 2 years away, so instead I could get it for him at any point before or after, maybe as birthday gift or something.
Would it be a bad idea to give him such a big/exciting gift on our wedding day? I’m just worried that it might detract from the excitement of getting married, or be too much of a distraction. Also, if we leave immediately for our honeymoon, he won’t get to play with it really until we get back. That said, if I am planning to give him a motorcycle in the next few years, wouldn’t it make sense to give it to him then?
What do you all think?
Post # 3
No thoughts on this? Anyone?
Post # 4
@MissBananaBread: You can do what you like but if it were me I would not give it as a wedding gift. I do not have a problem buying expensive gifts but the wedding is not the time. You are THE prize, on your wedding day. Give it to him the following Christmas since your wedding is so close to the holiday.
Post # 5
I think a motorcycle would be a great idea. Especially if it’s what he’s always wanted. I had tried to get my Fiance his dream car. LOL. But that obviously required a lot more savings. In the end his parents gifted us the car for our wedding gift though.
Also, please don’t take this the wrong way, and it’s not meant to be bratty but 4-5k is not too much to spend on a day of gift. I know people who buy each other expensive jewelery/watches that are in the price range or higher even.
Post # 6
I would give it to him as a wedding gift but have it be waiting for him when you get back from your wedding. I wouldn’t want him to focus on the bike that day or even want to ride it in his tux. But tell him you have a gift or give him a card and tell him know the gift will be waiting for him when he comes back from the honeymoon.
It is expensive but if you can afford it I would say do it. Just think of the cost that guys spend on our engagement and wedding bands and they mostly just get a plain piece of metal for a band lol
Post # 7
Oh man, I was kinda hoping for more consensus on this. The post-honeymoon idea could work, although Im not sure I could keep it secret that long. We live in MI, so if I don’t do it for the wedding I would probably do it for a birthday present because it would be snowy for Christmas and our dating anniversary (so probably not the best time to try out a new motorcycle).
Post # 8
My Mother-In-Law bought my Father-In-Law a used corvette for their wedding and he STILL brags about it today 35 years later even though he sold it when Darling Husband was born 30 years ago. He uses is as his “I have the best wife ever, and I knew it from Day 1” story. I love hearing him tell it and it makes her beam to know that she got him the perfect gift. I say go for it!!
Post # 9
I personally would see it as too large a gift to give my groom on our wedding day.
However, if you think it’s perfect, and your circumstances allow, you should do what you want. Do you think he will be able to wait until after the honeymoon to go for a ride? I’m not sure your wedding day is the day to test out a new motorcycle. 😉
Post # 10
I say give it to him as a wedding gift if you want to but I definitely agree with PP about having it waiting for him when he gets back. It’s just cruel to dangle a new toy in front of him and then tell him he can’t play with it for a while. Why not make a fun game out of it? For instance, on the day of the wedding give him a card with a really vague clue about his gift. Then throughout your honeymoon, periodlically give him a few more clues but be sure to not make it too easy. Ideally, you could work it so he’s totally puzzled until you get back home. Give him the last clue that will make it all click once you’re home.
Post # 11
It’s your day and you know your Fiance better then us. I thought about getting my Fiance a motorcycle aswell because I know he wants one but with the wedding cost and building a new house this may take a back sit. If youhave the extra money then go for it. If your Fiance is like mines he knows I/we will go all out on a gift. Good luck.
Post # 12
@CanAmBride: That is really cute.
Post # 13
If it’s the perfect gift for him, and you can afford it, then go for it! Just make sure you stipulate that he CAN NOT obsess about it during the wedding, LOL. Your wedding day is STILL going to be amazing and emotional for both of you, no matter what the gifts are…and then he could brag about you for the rest of your lives 🙂
My first husband and I exchanged our wedding gifts to each other the day before the wedding, privately, before the rehearsal dinner…so I suppose you could do that so he can get the excitement out of his system first?