(Closed) Is it proper/polite to invite your boss to your wedding? Please answer!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you supposed to invite your boss to your wedding?
    Yes, of course, that's standard practice! : (10 votes)
    17 %
    Never heard of that rule, that just seems crazy!!!! : (19 votes)
    33 %
    Not sure, but I plan on sending an invite anyway. : (20 votes)
    34 %
    Not sure, but I would NEVER invite my boss to my wedding--I am not crazy!! : (9 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    8579 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Are you inviting other co-workers to your wedding?

    I’ve heard it’s proper to invite your boss/supervisor if you invite other coworkers.. otherwise it’s a nice gesture to invite him.

    I do plan on inviting a few co-workers, and my boss & his wife. I’ve known him since I was 4 years old, and I’ve been working for him 11 years [13 years at the time of the wedding!].

    Post # 6
    Member
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My feelings are I work with them and if I didnt work there they wouldnt be invited so they would not be invited to my wedding. My job would be considered separate for my life and anyone there is not my family they are coworkers.

    Post # 7
    Member
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m not sure. Every case is different. I would definitely invite MY boss to my wedding, but its only because we’ve grown super close. She’s like an older friend and guide for me. Your relationship may be more on a professional level, in which case I would suggest keeping it that way, and not worrying about inviting the boss to the wedding.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would invite my boss to my wedding, but only because we are super close. I consider her to be more of my older friend and guide, than my boss. Your relationship may be more on a professional level, in which case I would suggest not worrying about it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I plan on inviting my boss and more co workers than I had originally planned, but i think the choice depends on how you interact with them more than etiquette. I work closely with a large group of people in a laid back workplace, so for me, I am inviting the people I go out to lunch with, who ask me how my wedding dress search is going, who stay past hours to help me on a project – they are my work family. BUT I will also say that if your boss barely has the notion that your getting married, doesn’t seem remotly interested in your life, don’t invite him.

    Post # 11
    Member
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Didn’t vote because my choice

    NO… NEVER a good idea.. wasn’t an option

    Truthfully… it is not a good idea.

    And always a great Question for the Etiquette Board…

    And here is a link to a past topic where all that was discussed quite  extensively.

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/1s-for-co-workers#axzz2LbkFpGMr

    Be sure and read the replies from aspasia475 (Reply  # 6) and myself (Reply # 12)… both of us HUGE Etiquette Lovers / Followers that frequent this Board here on WBee.  Our replies go into a bit about WHY it is important to  keep your Career Life seperate from your Personal Life.

    Hope this helps,

    Post # 13
    Member
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    If you’re inviting your whole team, sure. But I think it would be weird to just invite the boss or just him and a couple others. Invite who you are actually close friends with!

    Post # 14
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    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @maya2008:  I’ve never heard of this rule.  

    My fiance is not inviting his boss to the wedding, but I will be inviting mine.  It should be noted, however, that I am close with my boss and several of my coworkers (who will also be invited).  

    I agree with previous posters who said that you should invite people you are close with.  

    Post # 15
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    2533 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We are hesitating… Fiance has 3 (!) bosses in his 30-ish people firm (!!).

    One of his coworkers recently got married, and one boss showed up with two extra un-invited buddies to her destination wedding in St. Tomas. We don’t want that to happen! (Not that our wedding location is as appealing as a tropical island is).
    But she did mention that she received some generous gifts from them all, which I guess at least makes up for just showing up with some extra pals on the beach.

    I have two bosses, but one is the owner of the company and the other is my supervisor. I am debating on whether to invite them… I am not so keen on the owner of my company going (he’s OK, just loud), and if I invite my supervisor there are a couple other coworkers I’d have to invite in order to avoid hurt feelings (because he’s good friends with them and I work closely with them)
    SO. COMPLICATED.

    It’s a small wedding but we have a tiny bit of wiggle room in what I’m calling “luxury” or “nice to have but not required” guests, which would include people like co-workers, some more distant college friends and FI’s mom’s book group (haha).

    Post # 16
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    If you are not super close with your boss then I do not see why you would.

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