(Closed) Is it real?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Next time, say no and see what happens.

 

EDIT:  Now that I think about it, this has never happened to me.  I can’t believe that there are so many threads like this. Lol – people really ask that?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

“Yes, it’s real glass.”

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had someone ask me this at the gym!!! I have no problem saying yes, though!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

… so it isn’t real?  Suddenly I’m confused about this thread.  I mean, I understand that it’s rude for people to ask (I never would), but if the answer really is no, then what’s the problem?  Tell them whatever you want.  Is it obvious in person that the stone might not be a diamond?  Maybe that’s why they’re asking, they could think it’s a different kind of gemstone or something and want to know which.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think I’ve ever been asked that. It is a really crazy thing for someone to ask though period, regardless of whether or not it is obvious if your ring may not be a diamond. My ring is a moissanite, and if asked, I would say, yes, it’s real because it is a real moissanite! Even if I wondered if someone’s ring was real or not, I sure wouldn’t ask! Not my business!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@deliciousappleblue:  Yes I agree.  I think it’s a rude question to ask, but they could see that it is not a diamond and genuinely be curious about what it is rather than insinuating that you couldn’t afford a diamond.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree that it is a pretty rude question, but I dont think you should feel bad even if people did assume you could not afford it.  Its none of their business.  Though with an e-ring, people are probably assuming that is IS real, and asking cause they want you to confirm it so they can believe you could afford it.  I actually don’t mind if people assume I cant afford something when I can.  I get to assume I probably handle my over all spending better, and can splurge on big things more often.

Not asking to be mean or rude in any way, but do you think you are just a bit more sensitive to the question b/c you had to get a CZ for your setting due to the house work?  If you had a full diamond ring (assuming thats what you wanted), do you think the question would upset you as much?

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@deliciousappleblue: haha i know…im confused too!

OP, do you think the question may be bothering you so much because YOU care that the ring is a cz?  if not, don’t worry about the questions and just rock that baby =)

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s still a rude question, but I don’t think it’d bother you as much if you actually had a diamond. You are probably more concerned with what the girl will think if you say, “no, actually, it’s a CZ” and judging you for not being able to afford it, without you explaining that you COULD afford it, you just chose this option

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Orange Snakeskin: I’m sorry, but that’s exactly what it means.  It’s still a real ring, obviously, and a real symbol of your relationship and a real whatever else.  But you know as well as I do that when people ask if it’s real, they’re asking about the diamond – and it’s not a real diamond. 

And you’re right, it doesn’t make the question less rude. I wasn’t trying to upset you, I was suggesting an alternate possiblity to help minimize their insenstiviy and help you feel better.  Obviously that backfired.  It seems to me that you’re a bit touchy on this subject, which makes me wonder why you would bring it up at all.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

is this coming from close friends? ones that would have known about the other financial stains you guys had ben under? maybe they felt comfortable to ask. i would NEVER ask someone that! i think it’s rude. either way, you have a REAL ENGAGEMENT to a man you REALLY love! that’s what they should be concerned with. congratulations on your engagement and your ring (i assume it’s the one in your pic??) is beautiful=) 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Errrr yea…I’m with blue apple. Maybe they’re asking you if it’s real because it doen’t look real, because it actually IS cz? I can usually tell a fake diamond when I look at it…

If your diamond isn’t real, it’s still yours, so who cares? Own it girl!

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