Post # 1
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Bumble bee
So, I got asked for the first time today if my ring was real! Almost a month after getting it! The convo went something like this:
“Oh, can I see your ring?”
“Sure!”
“Wow, is it real??”
“Yep!”
“Aww, so you’re engaged?”
“Yeah, getting married June 1st of next year.”
“Wow, well he sure did good!”
“Yeah, he did…”
I didn’t take her question as rude or insensitive, because most people in the Southern US have smaller rings (i.e. 1/3 to 3/4 carat) and mine is 1.5 carat total weight (1 carat center). She seemed kind of in awe, and I wanted to tell her it was moissanite but then, she only asked if it was real…and it is…so I just said yep. Lol.
Has this happened to anyone else, when you KNEW they weren’t being snobby/rude and just genuinely intrigued?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Someone asked me that at work because she never saw a whole center stone as big as mine. Mine isnt big but she apparently thought it was! I was not offended, she was like, ooohhh wowie
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
Haha yeah my Fiance is a teacher so some of his friends were like “That’s not real. How did he get a ring like that on a teacher’s salary?!” Haha
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
It happens to me all the time! I have a blue diamond and most people that see it ask me what kind of stone it is. After I tell them it’s a blue diamond, they usually respond with, “What? I’ve never heard of such a thing! Is it real?”
I always just smile and said, “Yep, it sure it!”
It isn’t offensive to me in the least bit, I truly think people ask because they’re genuinely curious, not to be snotty.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Yup this happened to me! I was an older woman I worked with…I’d put her in her late 60s. She asked to see it and was like oh wow it’s BEAUTIFUL! Is it real?! The way she asked seemed genuine and sweet to me. I didn’t take offense at all.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I grew up in a poor area and my cousins (much younger) live in an area where the only people with rings over a half a carat have non-diamond look a likes (CZ or mossinite). My 11 year old cousin knew I liked diamonds and did not like non-diamond stones but was shocked at the size. Her response “It is so pretty! It is it real? Or is it like your old one from Claire’s? A Claire’s one is really pretty and special too!”. It was so cute and innocent, but I assured her it was a real diamond. She responded “I have never seen a real person with one that big!”.
Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
No, that’s never happened to me. My ring has center stone of almost 2 carats and I live in the South. I live in an affluent area so my ring doesn’t seem larger than the average around here to me. My co-workers and friends all have about the same size rings.
I would think it very strange is someone were to ask me (or anyone else) if their ring was “real.” I mean, you can see it on my finger, right? How much more real can you get than what you see right in front of you? If they’re asking because they want to know if it’s a real diamond or not, to me that’s pretty rude.
Edit: Other than a cute child and a sweet little old lady asking, that is! LOL.
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
Nope, no one has ever asked me that. I live in NYC, and my ring is actually smaller than the average here, so I wouldn’t expect it.
@Pollywog: That is absolutely adorable!
Post # 10
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Honey bee
@LindsayMaree: Have they never watched Titanic?
Post # 11
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Honey bee
nope, because it’s too small to be mistaken as a not real diamond.
Post # 12
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Worker bee
I’ve never had anyone ask, which is kind of disappointing because I’m always at the ready to say, “Nope, totally a figment of your imagination.”
Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
@icallitvera: Haha! Good one, I’m going to remember that, just in case it ever happens.
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
No one asked me outright (if they did, I’d fess up) but one person looked at it for a LONG time and said something like ‘Wow, it’s amazing how they can cut stones so they look so sparkly!!’ and I just agreed. It wasn’t a lie, since she never said ‘diamond’ but I kind of felt guilty.
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
Only once. Backstory: most of my friends know that I have a backup CZ ring because I had to get my ring adjusted right after Fiance gave it to me and I wanted ringbling for holiday photos. I also wear my stunt double ring when I’m at the gym or beach.
We were at a bar for my birthday and a female friend said, “Is that your real ring?” from across a long table. My CZ is 2 ct equiv and my engagement ring is just over 1 ct. I have no idea why she asked- she shouted it across the table. I’m guessing it caught her eye and the sparkle was so awesome that she had to ask and she thought it looked like 2 ct. That’s the positive way of looking at it. The other way of looking at it = she thinks my ring looks fake, despite having seen both rings in person before and pictures online. Maybe she thought I’d wear my fake one to a bar since the goal was “get wasted” but yeah. I replied to the tune of, “Yeah, this is the one Fiance gave me heh” and wrote it off as tactless.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
That’s awesome that lots of people have had it happen, but in a nice way! Lol.
I should’ve specified….I live in rural Southern US, rural Alabama to be exact, population of oh, just the cousins and aunts and uncles in my family 😉 There are some people that have larger center stones, but the majority have around 1/2 carat. Which is fine by me, since I love the size of a 1/2 carat (and it was what I originally asked for.) Lol.