Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
Just a random thing I’ve been thinking about lately. Mr. MJ and I are at a turning point in our lives that could be positive for us, or negative.We won’t know which it is for a few days (don’t worry, it doesn’t effect us as a couple – just a nwr thing).
Even while people around us are saying “it’s sure to work out!” and “you have nothing to worry about!” We’re both carefully tiptoeing around saying or even thinking those thoughts at all.
Why? we’re afraid to jinx it.
We’re not superstitious or anything – we dont’ worry about black cats or walking under ladders or throwing salt over our shoulders. But we sure as hell do “knock on wood” a lot.
Is anyone else like this? I honestly feel that a lot of times, being overconfident seems to keep the best from happening.
Or maybe it’s just a protection mechanism: if we don’t build ourselves up too much, we won’t be as let down if the good stuff doesn’t happen. (If you expect nothing, you’re happier when you get something!)
Post # 3
I’m a “never get too high or too low” kind of person. I feel that steadiness is best for my temperment, so I try to live in that neutral space.
I’m only superstitious about things like saying “It’s quiet tonight” at work. Never say that, because you just jinxed yourself!
Thinking positively doesn’t hurt, I don’t think… the problem comes when you get attached to the positive outcome before it happens.
Post # 4
i think it’s a protection mechanism. i’m not afriad of jinxing something, i just like to avoid getting too high that i’m completely devasted when something didn’t work out the way i had wanted it to. i can handle being let down but i like to make that fall as short as possible…or at least build up some cushion
Post # 5
I generally try to keep from getting too excited/stressed about something before it happens. I feel like I just don’t want to jinx it until I know for sure. I also think it’s kind of a defense mechanism–if you don’t get too excited for something, if it doesn’t work out, then you can deal better.
My husband is an eternal optimist. It’s like he always expects things to work out. Being postitive and confident are the way he deals with stressful situations.
Post # 6
We knock on wood, but mostly my boyfriend and I just hope for the best. I’m more optimistic than the boy, but we’re both pretty grounded in reality!
Post # 7
I do literally knock on wood occassionally. I am a pretty practical person so I think I have realistic expectations for the most part but I do think you can jinx something–so I knock on wood if I think I might have jinked something.
Months ago my Fiance was cutting a piece of plastic with a steak knife. I said “Don’t cut yourself!” and he started to say “I won’t cut my—[expletive]!!” and he cut his finger. He told me I jinked him. There’s been a couple of other coincidences so if I start to say something now that might jinx him or something he just looks at me and says “don’t even say it!”
Post # 8
I try to be cautiously optimistic about things. I like to believe it will work out for the best (it always has before) but I also work hard for what I want. And nothing motivates like a little fear.
I do believe in the “putting it out to the universe” idea. We really want to go to Argentina for a few months before I start grad school. I tell everyone we are planning on doing it (Including you Bees! It’s happening, I tell ya!), because I worry otherwise we will just let it fall to the wayside. I want to live our lives like the thing we want are forgone conclusions, since I think we are more like to hold each other accountable to them, and ultimately achieve it.
Post # 9
MJ: I don’t know what is going on with you and the Mr right now, but it sounds a lot like what my fiance and I are going through. Basically, the stars have decided to hand us a life-changing situation about 12 days before our wedding. We told hardly anyone at first, but things have come out recently, and everyone keeps saying “It will be fine!” and “It will work out for the best!”
I truely want to believe that, but I am like you and MrMJ, I feel like if I dwell on it and HOPE HOPE HOPE that things work out how I want them to, they never do. I try to just ride the waves, and keep my eyes open for opportunities. I think if I focus on one thing too much, I might miss some others. So maybe not thinking TOO positively about something is a way of your mind trying to keep your attention in as many places as possible.
Good luck with whatever it is! The one thing that helps me stay positive is that my fiance and I are in it together and we will work sometihng out!
Post # 10
Honestly, I worry like crazy. So does my grandfather, it’s kind of sweet that we share that trait but it’s obvious to other people that we both do ourselves physical harm worrying so much.
The best advice, that advice that I can’t take, is to hope for the best and try your hardest, whether that is evaluating every option, working hard, or whatever. You might never know what would have been otherwise, it could have been worse.
Post # 11
I try to find the positive side in any situation. And it never hurts to put postive vibes out into the universe!
Post # 12
you have to dream & hope for them to happen – think postive, be postive and good things will be drawn to you
im not saying have a ego the size of texas or that powerball win will happen but i prefer to not let negativity come into my life, if something not so great happens – it was meant to be and learn from it, afterall what doesnt kill you makes you stronger
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I think believing in bad luck is bad luck.
Edit: Just as I believe believing in good luck is bad luck.