(Closed) Is it really different when it’s your own?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

good lord i hope so! i feel the same way!

Post # 4
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Before I had my children, I would get physically ill when I came in contact with them. When I had my own that all changed. My children are my life.

Post # 5
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I sure hope so! (though I have grown more tolerant over the years)…

Post # 6
1102 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t have children either and am a couple of years away from it, but I’ve heard it’s *very* different when they’re your own. This particularly seems true for men! My DH’s boss once said to him “kids are like farts, you can only just stand your own” 🙂

Post # 7
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would hope so.  I want one.  Not sold on the thought of 2.  I hate ill behaved kids.  I hate their parents for letting them get that way too.  That’s my big issue.  But I’m looking forward to hauling a little one around the world, just like my parents did.  Seeing things through their eyes.

Post # 8
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wanted nothing to do with kids before I got pregnant. I still don’t really like other peoples kids all the time.

Post # 9
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t have very much experience with them. Never had little siblings or cousins or anything, really, so I tend to be very awkward. I worry I’ll hurt them or let them hurt themselves, and I don’t know how to entertain them. I also have varying levels of patience, and I get bored, so I worry, too. But I have like 6 years until I have to worry about that. I am hoping some nieces or nephews will ease me into it until them. I mean, objectively, I do really like children. I just don’t know how to be with them.

Post # 10
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I hope so too! My brother had kids when I was 22 and while they are awesome I had NO desire to have them, or spend endless time with them.  I have a lot of friends who I also wouldn’t describe as “baby people” but they are head over heels for their kids.

Post # 11
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Everyone tells me this. Even the guys at work with whom I can actually relate to.

I think i’ll be ok. SIL never wanted kids now has 2 and wants TWO MORE.

I love my cats so much. How could I not love my own flesh and blood?

Post # 12
1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Oakland Manor

@ejs4y8 HAhahahaahha, oh man. I never thought about it like that. I love my cats, I hope I love my future kids!

Post # 13
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I feel the same way, i love my niece and nephews but am so glad when I can leave them behind!!  I don’t think I’ll ever be actually ready for kids, it’ll just happend when it happens

Post # 14
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I can’t stand to watch my neice and nephews overnight, so I was worried about this too.  But then I thought about my dog (sad analogy I know).  The thing is, if he was someone else’s dog I don’t think I’d like him. But he is my dog and I adore all his little quirks.  So I have hope that I’ll love my kids despite their quirks.

Post # 15
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

My sister said that it was so different when it was her own daughter in her arms. She was so worried that she wouldn’t have that maternal instinct and she had never been around babies before. She was a nervous mom at times, but was so loving and tender with her daughter. She just knew what to do.

I have always been a baby person. Screaming kids don’t bother me, I don’t mind kids on airplanes or in (family friendly) restaurants. My niece screamed for an hour in the car after my sister picked me up from the airport because she broke her little sunglasses and it didn’t bother me one bit. There’s still a little part of me that wonders if i really will be a natural at mommyhood or not, but Fiance and I both want kids, so I guess if I’m not, I’ll learn.

Post # 16
2403 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i hope so too… i still don’t know if i want kids because i seriously don’t like being around them. Embarassed I have an adorable 1 year old nephew and like to hold him for a few seconds and then i give him right back to my sis or mom. If he cries, ahh geeze i go to another room!

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