(Closed) …is it really such a bad thing that we ACTUALLY talk rather than fight?!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Real MATURE couple are able to discuss, disagree, compromise when necessary and move on.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am with you.

Nearly 4 years with hubby and we have never ‘fought’.

I get irritated when others say this is a bad sign. I think it is evidence of our mutual respect and capacity for open communication. We are both in our 30’s so I think that may help a lot! I have had volatile relationships in the past, but I think we may have had some issues with non matching moral stances on most of the ‘big’ issues.

: )

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i fight. im the angry temper tantrum one. he just listens till im done. when im done he makes me sit down and talk about it so im really only fighting with myself.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re another couple with you.

Tearing down someone you love is completely unwarranted and to us is unacceptable. We certainly disagree but being ugly & yelling is not something we do.

A remember that my dad’s ex was like that… never yelled and her thing was

“Choice Words… you cannot take them back so choose wisely”

This helped mold me into how I handle disagreements now with my Darling Husband.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Amen 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Annebanan: Yep! But in the end WE are the lucky ones aren’t we!! I have enough drama in my life (high stress job where I work with complex people) that I feel so happy to come home and know peace!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It just depends on your definition of the word fight.  I think that when some people say it’s unhealthy to never fight they mean that it’s unhealthy to never disagree.  That seems strange to me too.  

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i can only recall one yelling fight and it lasted less than 8mins – its not us. 

i do get moody and im guilty of snapping at him when its not fair (im working on this) but we dont fight.  we have different opinions and we dont agree all the time but i think yelling (especially name calling) and tearing down the person you are suppose to love isnt healthy

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Annebanan: learning that totally changed my life! I grew up in a house where whoever yelled loudest won so those times in discussions with her were grueling b/c I wanted to yell & fight BUT she taught me that I didn’t have to be like that and even though I’ve still snapped or had a not the nicest attitude at times I haven’t torn down Darling Husband or anyone else since then and I’m very glad to be able to say that.

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