(Closed) Is it really taboo…?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you including your gift registry information in your invitation?
    Yes! How else would they know what I want? : (21 votes)
    11 %
    No, we are adding the information to our bridal shower invite and/or wedding website. : (152 votes)
    81 %
    No, that is so tacky! We aren't even registering for gifts : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We didn’t include anything about gifts in the invitations.  I think that having them in the invitations makes it seem like you want a gift from someone if they are attending.  Most people know to ask your family where you are registered in order to get you gifts.

    Post # 4
    Member
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I think the best thing to do is to add your registry info to your website. That way, it’s easily accessible when people look for it, but you don’t look like you’re soliciting gifts. Registry info on the actual invite is definitely taboo.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1732 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Have it somewhere else or tell people by word of mouth.  Having it on the invites is gift grabby!

    Post # 6
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    2459 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Every wedding I have ever attended has had the info in the invite, it is expected and it makes it easier for the guests. None of your guests will think it is tacky, everyone expects to give a gift, this makes it convenient for them.

    Post # 7
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    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’ve attended at least a dozen weddings, with seven of them occurring this past summer. Not a single one had the registry information included with the invitation, and I would have been somewhat horrified if it had. Put it on your wedding website, or communicate where you’ve registered to your parents and wedding party, and let them spread the word.

    I’m guessing that in other areas (i.e. Australia, based on simpleandchic‘s take on it), it’s more common. But for me, having the registry information with the invite is basically saying “Come celebrate AND BUY STUFF FOR ME!”

    Post # 8
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    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @redherring, you’re right, it does depend on where you live. I’ve only been to two weddings in either Australia or the UK (and I’ve been to plenty of weddings in both) that didn’t had the gift registry info in there somewhere — usually with a note saying that while gifts aren’t necessary, it people do want to give gifts, the couple are registered at x….

    I do have a question though — I’ve seen lots of places that say people are expected to ask the couple’s family to find out where they’re registered — but at least half our guest list wouldn’t have the faintest idea how to contact either of our parents. What’s happens in those cases, especially if they don’t know a member of the wedding party?

    Post # 9
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I think it’s generally considered poor form to include registry information in your invites, but not in your shower invitations. I’ve received one wedding invite with registry information, and although I definitely had my snooty moment (“THAT’S SO IMPROPER!”) I still went ahead and bought their gift from the registry they listed! So I think ultimately it doesn’t really matter that much… it looks sort of gift-grabby, but you have to assess your guest list to figure out if they are the type of people who would care or not.

    Post # 10
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    1955 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    You should include information about your wedding website in the invitation and have the gift registries on the website…Problem solved!

    Post # 11
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    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @wonderlanded – If I were attending a wedding and I didn’t know the couple’s parents or anyone in the wedding party, and the couple didn’t have a wedding website with registry information, and an online search for registry information at Wedding Channel, Macy’s, BBB, Crate & Barrel, Bloomingdale’s, Pottery Barn, Target, and [insert name of popular-to-your-area store where couples register] all failed, then I’d admit defeat and either just give cash or ask the couple where they registered. However, I’m pretty resourceful when it comes to finding this stuff out 🙂

    Post # 12
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    2459 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    What seems to be common in Adelaide is that most people either register at Myers (department store) or they register for a holiday. They are then given cards to hand out with ref. no on them. which are put in the invitation envelope, they are not on the invite but on a sep card. Everyone does it and it is so simple and convenient. I have never known anyone to have a wedding website b4 I went on this forum.

    Post # 13
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    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    i have seen it on shower invites, but my wedding planner said to just have it on your website and not on the invites

    Post # 14
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    While some people don’t care and will do whatever they want, including gift registry info in the invites is rude and many people are offended by it.

    Post # 16
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    26 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    i also didn’t know it was taboo to put registry information on the invite itself.  i plan to put it on our website when we get to that point.

    i’m trying to recall any recent wedding invitations…i recall that most had an insert inside the main invitation envelope that included registry listings.  but i guess that sort of the same as putting it on the invite itself?

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