(Closed) Is it really taboo…?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you including your gift registry information in your invitation?

    Yes! How else would they know what I want?

    No, we are adding the information to our bridal shower invite and/or wedding website.

    No, that is so tacky! We aren't even registering for gifts


  • Post # 32
    3605 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    as a guest i dont care if the registry card is in the invite and to be honest, in the past most of the invites we’re received have included them and i was happy with it. i would not attend a wedding without providing a gift so im grateful to be buying the couple something they would actually like (ie, they have registered). of course, i didnt register and i requested no gifts for our post wedding party and i still got a lot of icky stuff that i gave away to goodwill

    this year im embracing tacky, the more it happens the less people will wring their hands in despair 🙂



    Post # 33
    136 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t think it’s that bad of taste either. I mean everyone knows that you have to bring a gift/money to the wedding…you might as well know exactly what they want.

    Question – is it only taboo to put the info directly on the invite, or is it okay if you put a little insert in with the invitation suite saying where you’re registered? I had two friends do this and I didn’t think it was rude.

    Post # 34
    1364 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t think it’s bad taste. I know generally word of mouth or putting it on the website is the more acceptable way to do things but sometimes it’s just not practical. I’ve never had an invitation which hasn’t mentioned (on a separate insert) where to buy a gift.

    Post # 35
    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i think this whole “let’s keep your registry a secret unless someone asks for it” is so stupid. people know that you’re going to be asking for gifts, i mean, it is a wedding. if they don’t want to go to the websites where you registered to buy you a gift, then they don’t have to. including that info in an invitation only makes it easier for them to do this, since they don’t have to call you up asking where you’re registered. it’s not like you’re shoving it down their throats calling them up every week telling them what you want.

    can someone enlighten me on why this is such a big no-no? i mean, maybe i really just don’t understand how this is considered rude?

    Post # 36
    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

    I voted no (cause its on our website and we ran out of room) but if your have room on your invites go for it.  The word tacky is so over used and is soooo subjective.  Do what makes sense for you.  Laughing

    Post # 37
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Like most things, I think this totally depends on the region you are from or live in. 

    I also think that it really depends on what makes you feel most comfortable.  If you feel like it’s tacky-don’t include the information, but make sure that you don’t put down someone who includes it. 

    They may just be from a different region where that is the norm.

    Post # 38
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I’m doing it via wedding website. That’s gonna be on the invites/somewhere in the packet, that’s for sure!

    Post # 39
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

    I’m adding it to the website, and putting the website in the Save the Dates.  I have received invitations from other friends that included the registries in the invitation, and it didn’t bother me.  Makes it easier to know where to shop.

    Post # 40
    1751 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    word of mouth. if someone asks you directly, tell them. we didn’t include the info anywhere..

    I have received invites with inserts like that and I always throw them in the trash.. That’s me though.

    Post # 41
    1308 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We didn’t put registery info on our invites, simply because I had read in so many places that it was poor form. It really wasn’t a big deal because 90% of our guests called and asked us. I was really suprised how many checked in directly with us. I initally just told all of my bridesmaids and immediate family, and the word just kind of spread. We also included the info on our site. I don’t even think my shower invite had the info on it. People just figured out on their own or called us.

    Post # 42
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’ve been to three weddings in the past three months in Australia and 2 weddings in the UK in 2008, all of these weddings had an insert with the registy info and login details. Most registries are online and require login details, it so much easier to have the info in the invite rather than call around to find out. I might just add that two of the Australia weddings put in a poem about a wishing well. I was not offended by this at all, and I think the older generation of guests are also becoming used to the idea of cash as a gift.


    Seriously, who would attend a wedding without a gift? Make it easy for your guests and your family. Will you mum really appreciate 100+ phonecalls to find out where your registered?

    Post # 43
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I don’t even like it when the registry info is listed on the shower invite.  We put it on our website and spread it by word of mouth.

    Post # 44
    1300 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    shower invites can have registry info – because the purpose of the party is to shower the bride with gifts.

    invitations are for people to partake in your day – guests arent even required to give gifts, therefore it should be nowhere on the invite. word of mouth or website.

    Post # 45
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’ve never seen a wedding invitation that included the registry info.

    Post # 46
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    In reading through some of the responses it seems to be a regional thing.  I’m in the midwest and every invite I’ve received in the last 5 years has included registry information on either an insert or on cards provided by the store.  Every time I get one I jump on my little soap box for a second and complain about how tacky it is.  Then I send back my RSVP and give a gift of cash. . .because I’m lazy.

    I will be including my wedding website on my STD’s but not the invitations.  And will put registry information on the website.  If anyone wants to throw a shower for me, it’ll be up to them what they do with my registry information on that invitation.

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