(Closed) Is it really that big a deal?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t plan on hiding.  I don’t want Fiance to see me, but other than that, I don’t really care much!

Post # 4
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i say do what you want. i personally dont want the groom to see me…i could care less about guests..I hate that there is wedding etiquette because i really believe its your day and you can do whatever you want no matter how out of the ordinary it is.

Post # 5
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

We did our photos before the ceremony, so ALL my guests saw me before the ceremony.  The only thing that mattered to me was the Darling Husband saw me FIRST.  (We had a private first look shoot.)  Piddles on the rest of it, what do YOU want?

Post # 6
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Honestly, I think it is a personal decision.  If you have always wanted your “big reveal” to everyone and your Fiance to be at the aisle, then great.  However, if you would rather greet everyone and see your Fiance before, then why not?  First looks were not done in my parents generation, but they are very popular now!  Just because it is “traditional” doesn’t mean it is for you.  I will be doing my reveal at the aisle, but that is just how I always pictured it.  If you don’t care either way, then I say do what you want to do!

Post # 7
1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

I don’t think that it is so much of an etiquette thing…I think its probably more so that brides don’t want everyone to see them? Personally, I didn’t want EVERYONE to see me (just family and bridal party)…but if a guest or two happened to catch a peek of me when we were doing photos, I wasn’t stressing about it. If you are comfortable with seeing your guests before the wedding, then go for it I say!

Post # 8
1537 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it really comes down to personal choice. I want to stay hidden because I can’t wait for that special moment. I do, however, think every situation is different. Do what feels right!!

Post # 9
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you’re guest would really appreciate it and feel more welcome before the ceremony. I don’t anyone cares if you follow that tradition of “the big reveal.” Personally I plan meeting our guest after the ceremony and then leaving for our pics.

Post # 10
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I want the big reveal, but that’s a personal choice not etiquette. I say greet your guests if that’s what you’d like to do. Absolutely nothing will be ruined by doing it.

Post # 12
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That used to be because of weird old customs and superstition. Unless you’re really into that stuff, do what you feel you want to do. I don’t see any real reason you can’t greet guests to start off with. I think it’s a great idea, and they would probably love it!

Post # 13
355 posts
Helper bee

We did photos beforehand so our extended families on both sides had already seen me and to get inside the venue, I had to pass by several guests arriving.  I didn’t really care, and actually was able to greet them in a bit more leisurely than during the rest of the day when there were more guests present.  Also, a handful of my girlfriends dropped by the room where I was waiting before the ceremony and that was wonderful to chat with them (probably among my favorite memories of the day).   So by the time I walked down the aisle, at least half our attendees had seen me.   I think if the big reveal is something you want, go for it.  But from the guest perspective, it probably doesn’t matter that much — just make it a point to greet them warmly and thank them for coming whether it is before or after you walk down the aisle. 

Post # 14
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I couldn’t avoid seeing guests before the ceremony since they were staying in the hotel I was getting ready, but I didn’t mind. The only thing that bothered me was if they tried to come over and talk to me (sorry if I sound like a diva here), I mean it was my WEDDING day I obviously had about 50 people asking me questions at any second. 

Post # 15
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I didn’t hide! We mingled with our guests before the ceremony.

Post # 16
2820 posts
Sugar bee

A lot of guests saw me before our wedding.  It wasn’t a big deal for me and I don’t think it took anything away.

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