Post # 31
If your budget allows for two dresses go for it! I have a ballgown with a cathedral length train, and I know it’s going to be super heavy to carry around so I’m having a reception dress with no train that I can move around in. I’ll probably change into my reception dress after the first dance and then wear it out that night too.
Post # 32
I think there are many different cultural practices with regards to how many dresses the bride wears on the wedding day. Like a previous poster mentioned, in traditional Chinese weddings, the bride wears a red wedding dress for the tea ceremony, then a western-styled white one for the ceremony. I’ve been to several weddings where the bride also made more than 1 change of dress during the banquet (Chinese weddings have banquets instead of receptions, which includes a 10 to 12 course meal, so it lasts a LONG time). Also, Chinese “engagement photos” are generally of the bride in a wedding gown and the groom in a tux, which is very different from western-style engagement photos, so if you count that, that’s another wedding dress, although the one used in the photoshoot is usually rented (but renting bridal gown does not seem to be a practice here in NA).
Ultimately, though, it is YOUR wedding day. You don’t need others to justify what you want to do if it’s within your means. 🙂 If it makes you happy and it’s not breaking the bank, then who cares even if it’s ridiculous? If you wanted to recoup some money back later, you could think about selling them (or the one you don’t want to keep, if you want one as a keepsake).
Post # 33
I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all. I’m actually really surprised to see the comments here. It’s really, really normal to me to have a dress for the ceremony and a going away dress at a minimum. Most of my sorority sisters then have a “different” dress for the reception by having the ceremony dress bustled, but that’s the save money. The ones that can have three, do (my cousin did, dance floor queen she is, she didn’t want to be tied down). Also, I know of a lot of Asian couples that… I forget the order but they have one red dress because it’s family tradition and good luck in their culture, but also have a white wedding dress. I forget which one they wear for the ceremony, reception, etc.
Post # 34
I think it’s a horrid waste of money. You should chose one dress and run with it. If you want to change it up then get different accessories. But, two dresses make me think that the bride is trying waaaay too hard.
Post # 35
I am getting two completely different dresses and I won’t be wearing either for just 15 minutes. My wedding is 4pm to after midnight. After dinner (around 8pm), I plan to change into my second dress. Is it extravagant? Yes. Do I care what anyone thinks? Nope! I totally, completely intend to have my over-the-top, once-in-a-lifetime bridal moment…..
Definitely do two dresses if that’s what your heart desires!!
Post # 36
libralove55 : Posters are right – if it’s in your budget and you feel it’s okay, then go ahead and buy it. But ask yourself first if you are going to regret spending that money on a dress that becomes immediately useless when it could have been put elsewhere. Like everything in life, you need to weight it in the balance: could you add it to a home down payment? Pay off a bill or more? Buy your fiance something he’s been longing for? Add it to an area of the wedding to increase guest comfort? Donate it somewhere important to you? Start a savings account for yourselves or future children?
If you aren’t going to feel guilty over doing two dresses, then buy and enjoy. If you think you might be sorry afterwards, then it’s time to make a decision between the two.
Post # 37
I still want to see pictures! 🙂
Post # 38
I guess because there’s a strong Chinese presence in my community, I think it’s perfectly normal to have two or even three wedding dresses! I always am so excited to receive an invitation to a Chinese wedding because of the pageantry and of course the delicious feast. The last one was so opulent that it blew DH’s mind – bird’s nest soup, abalone, jellyfish, and Peking duck were some of the highlights.
That said, as a budget-conscious European-American, I only had one dress and grabbed the cheapest one that I liked off the rack. I probably wouldn’t wear two dresses because even spending the $650 on my dress seemed wasteful…
Everyone’s budget and priorities are as unique as their weddings, though, so don’t let anyone stop you if that’s what you want!