Post # 1
… to give out presents to wedding party / parents at the rehearsal dinner?
My FI was concerned that this was rude to others in attendance when I said that I wanted to thank our wedding party and parents at the rehearsal dinner and give them their gifts. I don’t understand this at all – actually, if I’m at a rehearsal dinner, I expect to see the wedding party receive their gifts.
Can any bees offer perspective on this?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s rude at all. This is how it’s always been done at any rehersal dinners that I have attended whether or not I was in the wedding party. I hope it’s not rude because that was our plan as well.
Post # 4
That’s how we did it with our wedding party. However, we did my parents personally because their gifts were combination gifts…. my Dad performed our ceremony so his present was a combined officiant/parent gift. My parents anniversary was 3 days after our wedding so our present to them was anniversary/thank you gift.
Post # 5
No its not rude. The people who dont get gifts should understand… Most people know who gets gifts (wedding party, parents, etc..)
Post # 6
Not rude at all. It is typical to distribute the gifts at the rehearsal dinner. Other attendees will expect it.
Post # 7
I know normally (at the weddings I have been to at least) they are given out at the reception and that is in front of all your guests. So no I don’t think it is rude to give them out at the rehearsal dinner. I actually think it is more personal and intimate to give them at the rehearsal dinner. That way you can be personally thank everyone and everyone can appreciate their gift and not have to worry about carrying it around, etc at the reception.
Post # 8
Actually, I think that is a great idea! I was going to give my girls theirs at my bachelorette party (jewlery) and he was going to give his groomsmen theirs at his bachelor party (engraved cigar holders w/ a cigar.) I think the rehearsal dinner sounds even better actually. The rehearsal dinner is sort of a “thank you” anyway so why not add the gift giving at that time too =)
Post # 9
I hope not, that’s how we did it 😉
Post # 10
I think that is actually how you are supposed to do it! That is exactly how I indend to do it, anyway!
Post # 11
Not rude at all. It’s the way it’s always done, as far as I know. We did this at ours last year.
Post # 12
That’s the only way I’ve ever seen it! I don’t think you should worry about it being rude to anyone.
Post # 13
hmmm i’m the odd one out. i’ve never seen this done at a rehearsal dinner. and every wedding i’ve been in i’ve received the gift privately, (usually while getting ready on the day of with the other bridesmaids.)
Post # 14
That’s how it’s done at every rehearsal dinner I’ve been to. You could wait til the day of the wedding and a time when you are just with your bridal party, if FI isn’t comfortable with it.
Post # 15
I know its customary, but I personally felt uncomfortable with it just like your FI. Instead we had a court brunch early in the planning process where I gave them their gifts and thanked them (plus gave them lil calendars). lol.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s rude, no. I would however find it rude, if the other people there expected to receive gifts lol.