Post # 1
to order bridesmaids dresses online without having the girls try them on?
Background info: I found dresses that I *love,* but they aren’t available anywhere near me. The closest vendor is about 4-5 hours away. I sent pictures to the girls, and they all really like the dresses, but I think a couple of them are nervous about not being able to try them on.
One of my BMs lives in a city where the dresses are available, and she and my Maid/Matron of Honor will probably be the toughest to fit. My Maid/Matron of Honor wants to take a trip to try them on, but do you think it’s rude to want dresses that the other girls won’t get to try on?
Also, I don’t know if it makes a difference or not, but my mom has offered to at least help pay for them, if not pay for them completely since we were WAYYY under budget on my dress and my BMs are all either still in school or are just starting out in the “real world.”
Any advice/input would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
I didn’t get to try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses any of the three times I was in a wedding. It would never have occurred to me to think that was rude!
Post # 4
Nah, my maids are getting sized and measured for theirs, and there weren’t any in that particular style in store for them to try on. It sucks that they couldn’t, but I wouldn’t think it was rude.
Post # 5
We ordered ours from Ann Taylor, so there was no trying on. Everyone knew their general size, and one maid had to get hers hemmed and taken in (because the size 0 was too large. I know, gag me). I think it’s fine.
Post # 6
I’ve been a bridesmaid 3 times and only once was I able to try on the dress prior to ordering. I think that’s pretty normal, so I wouldn’t worry about it.
I also think it’s awesome that you are helping pay. Your bridesmaids are lucky girls 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks! The only two weddings I’ve been in, the brides were insistant that we try the dresses on, and both of those girls are in my wedding. One was fine with just ordering, the other seemed uncomfortable. I’m glad to know it’s a normal thing! And yeah, my mom is a complete sweetheart. She’s amazing and loves helping out my friends. 🙂 We’re all lucky!
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s rude, but it might be a little risky. I’ve looked at dresses online that I thought would fit great, and then I try them on and they’re awful. I would definitely wait until your one bm tries it on to at least get an idea of how it fits.
Post # 9
It’s not rude, but if I were your Bridesmaid or Best Man, I’d prefer to try it on first.
Post # 10
Not only is it NOT RUDE, sometimes it’s the only option.
Having your Maid/Matron of Honor and one of the BM’s try on the dresses will help the rest of them to know what size to order as they will be able to tell if they fit to size, or fit small or large.
Post # 11
It is definitely not rude. One of my BM’s (I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding) said something along the lines of, “it’s the bride’s choice.” No matter what! It’s awesome your mom is going to pay for them.
I think it’s good your Maid/Matron of Honor and other Bridesmaid or Best Man try them on, so you can at least see what it looks like. This will help YOU decide if you like them!!
Post # 12
Only 2 of my BMs actually tried on the dress that we ended up getting. The girls just used the sizing chart online and then had alterations done if necessary
Post # 13
i bought my girls dresses from lightinthebox.com – so none of them got to try them on – they were ok with it – they helped pick the style at least – luckily they were able to send in measurements if needed.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s rude… often times, stores don’t even carry every dress in a designer’s line, so they have to order from a catalogue. If it’s a style that is easy to alter and generally would fit everyone well, I think you’ll be ok.
Post # 15
Not rude… But those are pretty expensive dresses. If you’re not getting married until June of 2012, is there really no time in the next year that you can get to a store where Jenny Yu is carried?
Post # 16
I’ve never been able to try on dresses for an out of town wedding; I’ve always just sent my measurements and then had the dress shipped to me for final alterations. It should be fine. If some want to coordinate a trip to try them on then great, but if not, no one should have any major problems.
Best of luck with the dresses!