(Closed) Is It Rude……

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Would you be serving some food, like heavy appetizers? I think if you are going to keep your guests for 6 hours you do need to make sure they are full.

Post # 4
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@JMonzy:You could always do a cocktail style reception and have the reception be an hour or 2 long.  Serve drinks and passed hors dourves or small food stations.  I think if you plan on doing from 5-11 then you most definitely need to feed your guests dinner.

Post # 5
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would expect dinner or some sort of food to be served. I think it would be odd not have something for your guests that are attending your wedding.

Post # 6
1773 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Fiance and I went to a wedding last year and all they had was veggie platters and cheese. The wedding was at 5 and the reception started at 6, so we assumed they were serving dinner. I guess we should have asked, but every wedding I have ever been to served dinner.

I think at that time people are going to expect dinner, or at least SOMETHING that will fill their tummies. There were people leaving the wedding at like 7 to go get something to eat. It was just so crappy.


Post # 7
3330 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve been to a wedding that had similar hours to what you’re describing, and I have to warn you that if you don’t serve some type of food, guests will leave really early. It doesn’t matter if it’s just deli sandwiches or cheap pasta, a little food will go a long way.

Post # 8
702 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

That is prime dinner time. You have to consider that your guests will not eat dinner before a 5:00 ceremony; they will expect (based on the time) that they will be fed. You don’t have to serve a formal sit-down dinner, or even a complete dinner buffet, but you do have to serve enough food to replace dinner (heavy appetizers would do). I like the idea of food stations – pasta stations, mashed potato bars, flatbreads with different toppings are all relatively inexpensive yet filling. You could even do a gourmet slider station…:)

Post # 9
574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

They’re going to be expecting something. They’re not going to eat before the come either.

Post # 10
30402 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You simply cannot ask your guests to arrive before 5 pm and not serve enough food to constitute a meal no matter what form it takes.

I’m guessing that you normally eat a meal between 5 pm and 11pm. So do your guests.


Post # 11
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We went to a ceremony at 5:30 reception at 6:30 and NO food the entire time! I’m sorry, tortilla chips and dip, celery sticks and ranch, and a champagne glass with shrimp and grits in it just aren’t cutting it for 150 ppl. We ended up leaving early along with a lot of other ppl b/c we were all so freaking hungry. I didn’t get first dibs on the shrimp and grits b/c I told my Fiance I was saving room for dinner, only to find out an hour later there was no dinner! We are working our budget to make sure we’re having food. 

Post # 12
2159 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yeah, if the reception is starting at 6:30 and lasting longer than a couple of hours, then I’d expect dinner. Otherwise you’ll probably have people leaving after an hour or two in search of a full meal.

Post # 13
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Could you make it start at 7? (romantic shortly before sunset)

or at noon? 


Post # 14
29 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would definitely expect some substantial food (not necessarily a full on dinner) at that time of day. Leaving a wedding hungry – especially for out of town people – will not endear you to your guests!

Post # 15
3605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

if you are inviting guests to be there from 5pm to 11pm you have to serve them something

heavy hors dourves/appetizers at the very least and maybe mention that you are serving platter food only, that way people have the choice to leave after the ceremony. do not make your guest stand around for hours wondering if there is going to be food served

Post # 16
726 posts
Busy bee

Yea, you definately want to feed your guests or else you’ll end up wasting money on an empty venue because people are going to leave really early to eat.

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