Post # 1
Is it rude to invite your immediate family’s children but no other children?
I have 5 younger sisters and my youngest sister is 10, and S has 3 neices and nephews. We are having a small 40 person wedding. Would it be rude to invite them but not invite our friends kids?
Post # 3
@PennyLainne: I think as long as there is a clear line “i.e. family kids only” then it should be fine.
Post # 4
No, just make sure you make the line clear. These are your neices and it’s completely understandable that you would want them there. But if you do want to avoid having any negative comments you could have them in the wedding and then you can say that only children who are invited are those that are in the wedding.
Post # 5
Not at all. It’s family, and I think most people understand that. That said, if you invite your sisters’ kids and not, say, your cousins’ kids, that might raise questions unless those children are in the bridal party or something. I think it’s generally understood though that when you go to a friend’s wedding as opposed to family, your kids are not invited unless specified.
Post # 7
I don’t think so. I’m only inviting close family children. Kids can’t really appreciate the wedding ya know?
Post # 8
I vote nope. Your wedding, your day, do what you please.
Post # 9
Not rude at all. Family is important to have there, not that other kids aren’t important, but it’s just not the same. Parents should understand.
Post # 10
I vote no because the children of your family members are your family too…I mean obviously you want your nieces and nephews there.
Post # 11
No it is not rude for a host to invite the guests that they choose. I also don’t think the rule has to be something tangible like family only. The rule could be people we are close to.
Post # 12
*phew* Thank you! I was worried! With such a small wedding I was worried if every one brought their kids it would turn into a play date.
Post # 13
Some people have the “all or nothing” mentality when it comes to kids and weddings but I don’t agree with it. If you have children that are close to you and you want to include them then you should be able to without offending your friends with kids. If I were in the friends position, I would totally understand that you’d want your blood relatives there and I wouldn’t be offended that you didn’t invite my offspring. Then again, I also wouldn’t bring my (hypothetical) kids to a friends wedding even if they were invited. So, no, it’s not rude. Invite who you want to invite. If your friends are that unnecessarily irritated over having to leave their kids at home then they can make the decision to not attend.
Post # 14
I’m voting no, it wouldn’t be rude. I’m unapologetically inviting some children and not others. The children that are invited are not necessarily only family either. I’m basing the decision on how we well know the kids and how enjoyable the event will be for each particular child.
Post # 15
We invited the siblings kids and no others.