Post # 1
So our wedding was set for Valentine’s Day next year and we are seriously considering eloping.
I can’t take it how everyone wants to turn my wedding into their wedding. I can’t take people whinging about my wedding. I actually got whinged at because. 50 Shades of Grey comes out that day! I am so stressed at the amount of people who take it upon themselves to complain to the Bride of all people.
Ugh, I don’t care that my wedding means I won’t be married in the eyes of God. I don’t care that we have been living in sin for ten years and marriage won’t save my soul now. I take offence to the fact that my daughter will still be a bastard because she was born out of wedlock. I don’t care that people font like other people who are coming…. and more, but the ridiculous, stupid thing is that I do care! I do care what other people think. I care what they think about my wedding and what they might think about my elopement.
We looked into it, us three (including pur daughter) can go and stay seven nights on the gorgeous Hamilton Island and get married for less than the wedding would cost. Just us three, me and the two most important people in my life.
Am I being selfish for even thinking it???
Post # 2
Even if it was selfish-It’s your wedding.
It’s a perfect time to be selfish.
This time is about yuo and your fiance and your daughter. Do what makes you the most happy!
Post # 4
I had a friend who had a big wedding planned and then cancelled it and eloped. Honestly, I was relieved, but mostly because I would have had to travel and my work schedule makes it really hard for me to get away and I was scared I wouldn’t be able to go. I have been thinking about eloping or having a very intimate wedding at the most. I think when it is your wedding you can do what you want. If you think you will regret eloping then you may want to consider still having a ceremony. However, if you think you will be just as happy, or happier, getting married with just your Fiance and your daughter there, I say go for it!
Post # 5
sandy85: Go for it!! Your wedding is definitely a time when you should do what’s best for you, and I think that would be eloping.
Post # 6
sandy85: Selfish? Yes, absolutely! And you should be!
Your wedding is about you and your FI and you don’t owe it to anybody else to live up to their expectations of your wedding.
Post # 7
Its not. But I would suggest you both say to parents, etc. This is the deal. Very small wedding. Imediate family only plus each of us gets 4 friends. Anyone doesnt like it, we are eloping.
Post # 8
The only time I would say not to cancel the wedding and elope would be if people have already bought plane tickets or other non-refundable travel purchases. If someone has already come out of pocket to attend, then it’s a really bad move to cancel on them.
Post # 9
Horseradish: Should have clarified that, no one has. Everyone lives in the same state as us. Thanks though for your reply.
Thanks everyone else too. There is something that feels so naughty about eloping and I love it!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
It is your special day to do what ever you wish.
Post # 11
sandy85: We’re eloping, too, and that’s one of the things we love about it! You sound so much happier when you talk about eloping than when you talked about the wedding – I think you know what you need to do!
Post # 12
Good for you to be so daring! It takes some guts to do that and it sounds like eloping is exactly what you and your family need to do! It will be a lot more stress free and enjoyable for all three of you. Leave the pushy, negative minded others out so that your day is beautiful and memorable just like it should be 😉
Post # 13
How much have you already put down for deposits (venue, catering, etc)? Those likely are not refundable. And how much of your parents’ money did you already spend? Eloping would probably make them VERY angry and they’d probably want you to pay them back.
You shouldn’t let these people bully you! the next person that mentions the 50 Shade of Gray movie- you respond “THANKS FOR CARING MORE ABOUT SOFT CORE FETISH PORN THAN MY WEDDING!”
Post # 14
While I absolutely think you should do what will make you and your future hubbie the happiest, it sounds like you may be having a momentary freakout. Would it help taking a week off of all things wedding? Just a thought. 🙂 Also +1000 to Yumcheez, I’m laughing out loud right now. 🙂
Post # 15
sandy85: We had the same issues and more while planning a traditional wedding. We ended up scrapping it all & having a tiny wedding on the beach in mexico for less than half the cost. Just me & DH, my brother & his gf, and Dh’s brother & his wife. It was amazing and even a year and a half later we are both still over the moon happy with our decision. It’s up to you & your FI but if it will make you both the happiest I say do it! We were together for 8 yrs when we got married & it just felt right to start our marriage (finally) with just us, the way it has been for the past 8 yrs…