(Closed) Is it rude not to have a rehersal dinner?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No one will care if you don’t have a rehearsal dinner before the wedding.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not planning on having one.  Our rehearsal is at 4pm on the Friday before our wedding, but it is more for Fiance and I to run through everything with the minister.  We each just have one attendant and we have two readers, but they don’t really have to be there.  Most our guests are driving in on the day of the ceremony….plus, we are on a tight budget.  If we do anything at all, it will probably be an informal gathering later in the evening in a casual restaurant/bar.  I kinda feel rude because I’ve always thought of a Rehearsal Dinner as part of the whole wedding-thing….but, we just can’t really do it.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

For me, since I had to keep to my budget, I did have to consider saving money by not having a rehearsal dinner.  But then I heard from my Darling Husband and his mother that it’s can be considered to thank you dinner to your wedding party.  So people may be bothered by it. (this may also do with the certain tradition that the groom’s side has to pay for the rehearsal dinner.  This may be something the groom’s side thinks it of, since the bride side usually pays for the wedding.  But nowadays that’s not the case.)

So for me, we paid for our wedding, and go some help from our parents.  So I was responsible for planning the rehearsal. I did want to thank the wedding party for coming the day before the wedding to rehearse.  Some came out of state and some had to take off. I, also, in order to save money, I had a rehearsal lunch.  So I had rehersal at 11am on Friday, followed by lunch.  Much much cheaper to have a caterer lunch then a catered dinner. (I paid $11 per person)  Another reason I like the rehearsal and the lunch earlier in the day was because I wanted to be able to relax the night before my wedding.  This might be a idea for you.

Also, I just had the rehearsal and the rehearsal lunch for just wedding party and their significant other.  I didn’t include out of town guests.  It actually worked out  for me because my wedding was the weekend after Thanksgiving, so if there were any out of town guests, they were invited to Thanksgiving dinner at each parents house.

Anyway, what I’m saying is that you don’t need to have a rehearsal dinner.  But I stated why and how I ended having a rehearsal and lunch.

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