(Closed) is it rude not to have OOT bags?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@vanilla44:  I really wouldn’t worry about it. We were Out of Town guests at a wedding and never got a welcome bag….we didn’t even miss it. It’s really not a big deal!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldn’t worry. I think hosting a breakfast is enough

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Also remember that some things like this aren’t even heard of! I never heard of Out of Town bags till I joined wedding bee. Perhaps none of your guests have heard about it either. I would nix the bags and save yourself some sanity. I’m not doing any either.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t stress, it’s definitely not rude to skip the Out of Town bags. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I hadn’t heard of Out of Town bags until I joined either. Half our guests will be Out of Town guests since my FI’s family lives anywhere from 4-8 hours away. We’re not doing Out of Town bags.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s rude not to have them – I’ve only been to one wedding where they were given and, quite frankly, it mostly contained personalized favors (golf balls, playing cards, votive candle) that I ended up throwing away after I got home.  I figure if I stick to just a few edible treats, some local maps/brochures, and a welcome letter, they’re more likely to be consumed/taken, but I’m just not sure that they’re worth the increase in our budget.

So no, definitely not rude to have them, and possibly a waste of money if not executed well.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Our wedding was pretty much 100% out of town and we didn’t create them.  I’ve never seen one outside of WB land so I really don’t think they are as common as people think.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We had over half of our guest who were out of town. I never heard of them until this site also. As pp said I wouldn’t worry about it

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The majority of weddings I’ve attended where I am an out of town guest at I don’t get a oot bag. The only advice I would have have print outs with places to eat, times of wedding weekend events. Last year  at a wedding I attended, my group of college friends and I were off having dinner and doing things together not knowing about the welcome bbq and hangouts the bride and groom had set up. We felt a little left out when we heard about it, it spread through word of mouth, and since most of us were her college friends and didn’t really know her local friends and family members no one remembered to tell us so word never got to us, and extra directions and addresses in case anyone forgot them at home.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think it is RUDE to not do them,  but as a guest I really appreciate them…. it doesn’t have to be extensive.  I think even a bottle of water and a bag of chips goes a long way (especially if half the people are staying b/c they are drinking).

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’d never heard of them before the bee, and for all the wedding I’ve gone to Out of Town, I’ve never gotten one. Even after Weddingbee, I never thought to want one. You don’t need them.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@TwoCityBride:  I agree to keep the people informed about the happenings.

Out of Town bags are definitely nifty and considerate, but most people will just follow the bride and groom around majority of their stay anyway.

I live and my wedding is taking place in Virginia. My family is from Ohio and his is from South Carolina. They all have to travel. We are not doing Out of Town bags because I know that most of the time, if we aren’t out running errands, they’ll all be at our house anyway, which I don’t mind at all lol. Our families are fairly close knit and a few know each other. Also most of our friends actually live here and know where everything is.

I don’t think it is inconsiderate at all.

Save yourself the stress, and if Fiance thinks you guys should do it, maybe he should take it for action, lol!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

One reason to consider doing them- does the hotel include free water in the room? Ours doesn’t, so we’re doing a really simple bag- water, chips, granola bar, gum, and some local info.

Considering that you’re hosting a breakfast the next day, that’s very generous. I agree-let Fiance do it at this point, if he wants them. 🙂

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