Post # 1
For our wedding, we are only having a maid of honor, best man, and two flower girls. Fiance and I are trying to decide how to be introduced at the reception. Neither of us really love the idea of a grand over the top entrance with music playing, and the whole bit. Would it be rude to not introduce the wedding party, and just introduce us, without music? We are also having a round head table, and people sitting at it are family, and others not in the wedding party (it seats more than 4 ppl).
Post # 3
We just had ourselves introduced, so I think either way you will be fine.
Post # 4
If you are doing toasts, introduce the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man before their respective toasts. Otherwise I think its fine if only you two are introduced when you enter.
Post # 5
@asscherlover: Who usually does toasts? Does this happen before dinner and speeches? If our MC introduces us and we walk in to our table, could the person saying thanks before dinner also toast the Maid/Matron of Honor and BM?
Post # 6
I honestly think we just walked in, I don’t think ANYONE was introduced… If we were I can’t remember. But I don’t think it is rude at all to not do some big intro for the bridal party.
Post # 7
The grand entrance with music playing is appropriate for heads of state entering into their court, where importunate courtiers wait to show respect to their leader. When a host and hostess make a grand entrance in such a way it is … how did you put it?… over the top. And not very polite to their guests, who are made to stand around waiting as serfs used to wait for lords and gentry. It is commonly done, but a little pompous, and not the best form.
A truly polite formal hostess already knows all her guests, and doesn’t need to be introduced to them. She does, however, need to introduce her guests to other guests that may not already have met. The best way to do this is by getting to the reception hall first, ahead of the other guests, and greet them as they arrive. Have the guests of honour standing next to you, and as you greet each guest introduce them to your guests of honour. If the hostess is the bride’s mother, she stands with the groom’s mother, and then the bride and groom, and then optionally the maid of honour. The other bridesmaids and the hostess’s socially suave kinswomen should circulate around the end of the receiving line, to be introduced to guests who have just emerged from the receiving line, and conduct them off to meet two or three other people so that they can find a conversation group to merge into; after which duty the bridesmaid or kinswoman circulates back to the vicinity of the receiving line to take custody of the next guest or two, and get them comfortably integrated into the gathering.
You can do the show-biz style public introduction if you truly want to, with or without music, but it is less polite than the understated low-key personal introductions that are made in the receiving line.