Post # 1
Two showers being thrown for me – one by my sister/moh, one by my aunts. The one my sister is throwing is a weekend bachelorette/lingerie shower thing about 2.5 hours away, at the beach. The one my aunts are throwing will have some family and be more tame, and is in the town where I and most of my friends live.
So…is it lame to invite the same people to both showers?
Post # 3
We invited a few people to two of our showers (one of my bridesmaids and then a few family members). We specifically told them that we just wanted them to come and enjoy the party and that they better NOT bring a gift. They didn’t listen, but I absolutely did not want them to feel like we were trying to be “gift grabby”. We just wanted them to come!
In our case, I couldn’t imagine NOT inviting those people to the second shower. They wanted to be a part of the parties so we happily included them.
Post # 4
I think in your situation it’s completely fine. Like you said, one is a bachelorette party/lingerie shower and one is a normal bridal shower. They’re two completely different events/types of event, if you ask me. I wouldn’t even think about not inviting my close friends to either of those two events.
Post # 5
OK thanks ladies! I also polled two of my friends and they said it was totally fine and that they would not feel obligated or pressured to buy multiple gifts or huge gifts. Sometimes this etiquette stuff makes me wig out!
Post # 6
if you were having 2 traditional showers, then i would have voted only Bridesmaid or Best Man to be invited to both, but because they are 2 different types of showers, i think it’s fine to invite close friends to both.
Post # 7
I agree with the PPs, as long as you tell the close friends that you don’t expect gifts for both, I think there’s no problem with it. They’re two completely different types of showers.