(Closed) Is it rude to ask budget?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It is not rude; rather, it’s sort of required. What would be rude would be to choose something and force it on her without considering her budget, so you will be doing the right thing to ask her about the budget.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m no expert at these things, and have a tendency to blurt out awkward things, but I would just say something like “Hey I found this dress I liked for the girls, it’s $50, do you think that will work or should I keep looking?”

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree that you should ask. If it’s too much, maybe offer to pay for half of what it would cost her?

 

@Natalieh86:  That’s a good response.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I think it’s good of you to establish budgets in the beginning so there are no surprises or uncomfortable feelings.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you expect her to pay, then yes, I would just ask her for her budget. Otherwise, your other option is to give her a few choices and let her know the prices up-front (such as “Here are the three choices. A is $30. B is $50. C is $75. Which one do you like?”) and let her pick.

We had two Flower Girl and they are sisters. We didn’t want to burden the parents as we had a very specific image of what we wanted them to wear so we bought everything ourselves, down to the shoes and accessories. They also had plain white Flower Girl dresses from another event that were hand-me-downs and they offered to wear those, and I definitely didn’t want those.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Personally I would be upset if you didn’t ask about a budget first, so ask away.  I wouldn’t even bring up the dresses you found until after you ask about a budget.  If it were me, who is a bit of a push-over and a people pleaser, and I knew you had found a dress you liked already, I would buy the dresses you already picked, even if it wasn’t in my budget.  Once you know her budget, and it’s less then $50 then decide if you want to help pay for them or keep looking.  O and starting the convo “Hey I started looking at dresses for the little ones, I am so excited I get to share my day with them all.  Is there a certain price point you feel comfortable at, just so I know before I get to deep in pretty little dresses.”

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

No it’s considerate. Just start the convo by saying hey I’ve been seeing some cute dresses out there and keeping my eye out but I was wondering of you had thought about what you would be comfortable spending for the girls? I don’t want to pick something that you would be uncomfortable cost wise. If she says she doesn’t know or doesn’t have one, maybe throw out that you saw some matching dresses for 50 but you weren’t sure if three of them was affordable.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

When my daughters were flower girls (two different weddings) the bride (their aunt) or their grandmother (the bride’s mother) bought or made the dresses.  I never had the chance to offer to pay for their dresses.

Does the mother of the flower girls usually pay for dresses?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No in fact I think it’s very considerate and perfect way to start off by asking he what her budget is.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would ask her how much she is willing to spend (or comfortable spending) before letting her know that you found a $50 dress. That way she doesn’t feel pressure to say she’ll spend that amount or guilt if she can’t. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It definitely is not rude!  It is up to us as brides to get the budgets from all members of the wedding party, and sticking to those budgets or offering to pay the difference.

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