Post # 1
My grandparents are wonderful people that I am thrilled to have at our wedding. They have also generously rented a house for our entire side of the family to stay in during the wedding festivities. In the past my grandparents have always given me generous cash gifts for big events. My grandma is a very talented and relatively famous painter and marble sculpter. Her works a very beaautiful and sell for thousands of dollars. However, she is getting older, and the amount of years she will be able to continue working is limited. I do not have any of her art works and could not afford to buy one, so I want to ask her if she can give me one of her works of art as a wedding present. It would mean so much to me to have such personal gift. Would that be rude or tacky? I don’t want to seem grabby
Post # 3
I think that would be perfectly acceptable.
Post # 4
The ONLY way to get away with your request, is if your Grandmother specifically asks you what you would like as a gift, and even then you have to tread lightly since you are literally asking her for a priceless gift…whereas she might not be willing to part with something that provides her a living, she would also feel awkward about refusing…be careful.
Post # 5
If you are close with your grandma, I think it would be perfectly fine to tell her you want some artwork. If you know she will give you cash anyway, I think it would honor her to want to display something she made in your home!
Post # 6
I think if your grandmother wants to make you a painting or sculpture, she will. I would not ask for one, especially if she is “famous.”
Post # 7
I think thats so sweet. I also think your grandmother would be honored, and probably give you a gift in addition to the artwork!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Maybe you could tell your mom (or dad. whoever is her child) that what you would REALLY like is something that she had made as a wedding gift. Hopefully they’d pass it on to them.
Post # 9
She’s your gradmother. Of course you can ask her! I’m sure she’ll be honored.
Post # 10
I think you can absolutely do this in a way that isn’t tacky, given that she’s family and has a particular talent. It really depends on your relationship. With my own grandma, I’d have no problem sitting down and, in the course of wedding conversation, saying something like “Yeah, when DH and I are decorating our house it would mean SO much to us to have a piece of your artwork in it. I’ve always really admired your work. I can’t imagine a better gift than that.”
I was all set to say “NO!” when I read the subject line, but I think if you handle this graciously and since it’s between family, it totally can be done.
Post # 11
If you have a good relationship with your grandma, I don’t see any problem with asking her, or having the message passed along by a sibling or your parents. It would probably mean just as much to her to make you something as it would for you to have it.
If you’re not close to her, it’s totally unacceptable.
Post # 12
I think it would be ok as long as its not (insert specific item already for sale in her shop). If you ask her if she would be willing to make a piece of art for you then its fine because she can opt to give you something already made, or something small that might not take too much time and energy to make, or she can spend a lot of time on it and make you something huge.
Post # 13
@NAvery: I opend this thread very warily as well, but I agree. This is one instance where it makes sense.
OP, you don’t have to outright ask your grandmother – you could hint at how much it would mean to you. I’m sure she’ll pick up on it 🙂
Post # 14
It’s rude to EVER ask for a gift… in any form.
What isn’t rude – tell your parents that you’ve always admired your grandmother’s artwork, and you would love to have a piece. Let them know that if she asks them for gift suggestions that you would be thrilled if she gave you something she made.
Post # 15
I agree with NAvery and Ryansgirl!