(Closed) Is it rude to ask for a specific gift from a specific guest?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Is it rude to ask for a specific gift from my grandma?
    Yes, it is rude and grabby : (41 votes)
    25 %
    No, she would be honored : (117 votes)
    71 %
    Other : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think that would be perfectly acceptable.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    The ONLY way to get away with your request, is if your Grandmother specifically asks you what you would like as a gift, and even then you have to tread lightly since you are literally asking her for a priceless gift…whereas she might not be willing to part with something that provides her a living, she would also feel awkward about refusing…be careful.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If you are close with your grandma, I think it would be perfectly fine to tell her you want some artwork.  If you know she will give you cash anyway, I think it would honor her to want to display something she made in your home!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think if your grandmother wants to make you a painting or sculpture, she will.  I would not ask for one, especially if she is “famous.”

    Post # 7
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    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think thats so sweet. I also think your grandmother would be honored, and probably give you a gift in addition to the artwork! 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    Maybe you could tell your mom (or dad. whoever is her child) that what you would REALLY like is something that she had made as a wedding gift. Hopefully they’d pass it on to them.

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    She’s your gradmother.  Of course you can ask her! I’m sure she’ll be honored.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think you can absolutely do this in a way that isn’t tacky, given that she’s family and has a particular talent. It really depends on your relationship. With my own grandma, I’d have no problem sitting down and, in the course of wedding conversation, saying something like “Yeah, when DH and I are decorating our house it would mean SO much to us to have a piece of your artwork in it. I’ve always really admired your work. I can’t imagine a better gift than that.”

    I was all set to say “NO!” when I read the subject line, but I think if you handle this graciously and since it’s between family, it totally can be done.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If you have a good relationship with your grandma, I don’t see any problem with asking her, or having the message passed along by a sibling or your parents.  It would probably mean just as much to her to make you something as it would for you to have it. 

    If you’re not close to her, it’s totally unacceptable.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it would be ok as long as its not (insert specific item already for sale in her shop). If you ask her if she would be willing to make a piece of art for you then its fine because she can opt to give you something already made, or something small that might not take too much time and energy to make, or she can spend a lot of time on it and make you something huge.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @NAvery:  I opend this thread very warily as well, but I agree.  This is one instance where it makes sense.

    OP, you don’t have to outright ask your grandmother – you could hint at how much it would mean to you.  I’m sure she’ll pick up on it 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s rude to EVER ask for a gift… in any form.

    What isn’t rude – tell your parents that you’ve always admired your grandmother’s artwork, and you would love to have a piece.  Let them know that if she asks them for gift suggestions that you would be thrilled if she gave you something she made.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree with NAvery and Ryansgirl!

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