Post # 1
I think In the past month at least 5 people have asked me about my diamond ring size without me Giving any sort of indication that I wanted to share how big it is.
Now bees, i feel that my diamond size is very “normal.” it’s 1 ct in the middle and has small prong set diamonds on each side. At first i didn’t mind sharing the size with others but then I started to feel very uncomfortable. I mean I love my ring and love showing it off but a simple “that’s a lovely ring” would be enough of a comment from people.
Last night i was out and an acquaintance of mine asked to see the ring. The first thing she said was “Oh it that’s a half a carat?” My first instinct was to quickly say “no it’s a whole carat!”
i don’t want to feed into this size fixation anymore that I already have. It’s not about the size of the ring. It’s about the love behind it. Anyone else agree or am I just over reacting?
Post # 2
weddingdiva2016: it is rude, IMO, for people to be asking for the size of your ring. I would simply say: “I’m not sure on the size, but I don’t care either. I love it!”
Post # 3
That’s rude of anyone to ask about the ring size, especially if it’s not someone close to you (it would be rude even for someone close to you to ask that). I would shut it down by saying you love your ring. If they ask again you can tell them size doesn’t matter and change the subject. Some people are so rude.
Post # 4
It’s for that reason alone I purposely don’t know the spects. I have my suspections, but I personally don’t care that much and why should anyone else. I had a girl ask me last night and I was like, I don’t know, if you want to know you have to ask Fiance. She didn’t.
Post # 5
It’s quite rude, imo. I’ve had acquaintances ask me how it feels to have a car or a downpayment for a house on my finger, and I just laugh/shrug it off and say, “Oh, I have no idea how much this cost Fiance hahaha”. I am the same way with the size. I just say “Big enough!” and be done with it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
That’s tasteless in my book.
Post # 8
It doesn’t bother me at all when people ask the size of my diamond.
Post # 9
weddingdiva2016: I don’t find it rude, but I also think of it as empowering people with information (rather than assume they’re being judgey). A lot of people DONT know what a 1 carat diamond looks like until they’re actually ring shopping. And in an industry that is particularly driven by perception (rather than actual scarcity), I think it can help people to know all the specs (including price) to keep from overpaying and making prices fairer. Knowledge is power!
that said, I also live in NYC where it’s entirely normal and not at all awkward to walk into someone’s apartment and ask how much they pay in rent.
Post # 10
While it doesn’t really bother me, I do still feel it’s rude. It’s no different than asking someone how much they make or what they paid for their house. adsf
Post # 11
I wouldn’t find it a big deal, depending on phrasing. “how big is that? Is it real?!” would be more annoying than “wow, that’s amazing looking, may I ask what size it is?” I mean people ask how much HP a car has that they admire. They ask us how many acres our property is, they’ll ask maybe dimensions of a new house. I don’t really see the difference. It’s just natural curiosity or trying to pick up information to use when they make a purchase of their own later.
ETA to poster above: actually I disagree – asking how much a house cost would be like asking how much a diamond cost, not how large it is.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s rude, but sometimes you can definitely tell when people are asking with bad intentions.
Post # 13
That’s totally rude and I couldn’t imagine asking someone that. I don’t know much about my ring other than it’s gorgeous, where he got, and that and I love it. I don’t care to know more. That’s how I would answer.
Post # 14
I think it’s kind of one of those things that is a bit of an overstep, but in my experience, happens a lot. Seems like a natural question to ask the ct. size (sort of like how New Yorkers like to ask how much you pay for rent). I wish people asked the question in a more neutral fashion that allowed the bride to respond in a way that made her more comfortable (“So, tell me about this ring!” vs. “So how many carats is it?”)
If it bothers you, then shrugging and feining ignorance is fine. I’m the type that would also feel okay going, “Dunno…I think, maybe…12?”
Post # 15
weddingdiva2016: I think it’s generally pretty rude unless someone I know well is in the process of ring shopping and is asking in the context of their own search. I asked my two closest friends if they wouldn’t mind sharing their carat sizes because I thought their rings were gorgeous and loved the proportions; they didn’t mind sharing. One of my coworkers asked because he is thinking about proposing to his girlfriend and I didn’t mind sharing. Definitely depends, but if you don’t want to answer, I would deflect and let them realize they are being awkward.