(Closed) Is it rude to ask people the size of their ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I soooooooo want to ask my coworker the specs on hers. I am currently ring shopping and I would love to know how a ring such as hers would look on me re size etc. I am looking at something similar. I haven’t yet though. Bleh. These things have become so tricky!

Post # 62
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208 posts
Helper bee

It’s rude as hell. Say it’s pretty and move on.  Especially if you don’t know the person very well 

Post # 63
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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weddingdiva2016 :  

Terribly rude.  And a question that does not deserve an answer.

Post # 64
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Helper bee

I get asked all the time and I don’t really find it rude, just people being curious. I personally, would never ask the size, but I ask about the cut a couple of times. When I have, they seemed really excited to share with me.

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

Size of the ring, not really. Size of you stone? Yeah, that’s really none of their business, they’re obviously asking because they’re underwhelmed, or they’re curious about how much it cost for “that big rock.” 

Post # 66
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Worker bee

I don’t find it rude. Like someone in this thread mentioned, it’s much like asking horsepower of a car or square footage of a house. The price on the other hand is another thing, unless it’s in an anonymous forum like this one or a close friend who is asking as they do research for one of their own. I had a acquaintance once ask me how my SO and I split the down payment for our home. I was so shocked and the question came from left field so at the moment I couldn’t think of a way of deflecting the question so unfortunately, I answered her question. I didn’t think anyone would ever ask me that. She was definitely overstepping and prying way more than she should. If someone ever asks me that again I will just say “We made an arrangement that works for us” and when someone asks me the cost of my ring I will simply say “I hope it was reasonably priced” 

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - City, State

I think context is huge here. I’m a jewelry lover and definitely don’t care what others can or decide to afford on an engagement ring. If I ask how big a stone is, it’s just out of general curiosity. My previous boss had what looked to be a HUGE diamond, I thought 2-3 carats at LEAST…after asking I found out it was 1.25 carats, and her fingers were quite tiny. So some people are just curious.

Post # 68
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Busy bee

IMO it’s rude. I would never ask someone the carat size of their ring. The only reason someone wants that information is to compare and/or judge it. It’s one thing if it’s a close friend ring shopping, or on the bee of course. But just some random coworker or someone on the street? No. lol To me, this goes hand in hand with asking how much money someone makes. You just don’t do it. You may as well ask how much the ring cost if you are asking the carat size. 

Post # 69
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356 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think asking the size of the Stone is rude. I think asking for the price would be. 

Post # 70
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Bumble bee

Totally depends on context and the closeness of your relationship with the person. I don’t ask people, mainly because I’m more interested in the general prettiness of the ring itself rather than the specs,  but I’ve had people ask me. xo

Post # 71
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Helper bee

Depends 100% – with close friends we have shared size & specs. I’d also be happy to share with people interested in diamonds/jewellery or those who are in the process of ring shopping. I only find it rude when the person is asking what size stone because they are trying to figure out how much my DH spent or how much money we have. 

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