- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2000
I support the OP in doing what is best for her own life. Being 6 hours away immediately seems to me like it defines limited participation, it’s a no brainer, regardless of TTC or finances or whatever.
I am amused at those who imbue a bridal party with some kind of magical healing of family dysfunction. It will make you so close to your brother! Warm feelings will flow from it and etc [insert eyeroll here.] Bleah.
Actually, it’s exactly this kind of thing that is more likey to cause strife and discord.
That’s why I think the bride is smart to stay away from the hot center of this event, the bridal party, and support it from afar, whatever that means for her.
I say this as someone who likes my family, both sides, gets along well with both sides, but am not near them. We are 8 – 10 hours away from family and I don’t make a huge effort to attend every family wedding or celebration. Sometimes I think that family dysfunction torques people’s view of life so that they can’t see that polite but distant support in family relationships is perfectly ok.