(Closed) Is it rude to get married on a holiday weekend?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3579 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I personally wouldn’t mind going to a wedding on a holiday weekend – especially that holiday weekend!

But I know a lot of people with cottages – ‘open’ their cottage that weekend and may be upset that they would have to choose!

But as long as you are ok with some guests deciding not to come and if you send out STDs then I am sure it will GREAT!

Post # 4
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think that holiday would be fine. If it were Christmas day or something i’d be a little more annoyed. I think you’ll be okay, might even save you some money if people already booked a vacation.

Also, as your planning, a lot of people will tell you a lot of things they don’t like that your doing. Just try to ignore them and enjoy your planning.

Post # 5
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I actually prefer holiday weekend weddings, because it usually means I don’t have to use up a day of vacation time from work to attend the wedding if travel is involved.

For people who think it’s rude, I personally believe that they have no right to judge when and where the couple gets married. That is completely up to the couple, and if people cannot attend for whatever reason, just check “no” on your RSVP card and call it a day! No big deal. If Memorial Weekend is so special to them that they would rather not celebrate a wedding (which is fine, whatever), then they’re under no obligation to attend, and will have a very valid reason (“Oh, we always spend the holiday with Grandma and Grandpa … “).

I think the only one I would ever have a problem with is if it fell on actual Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, and it was not an immediate family member but only because that would mean I would have to choose the wedding over spending the day with family, and I would choose family.

Post # 6
759 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We actually have a standing 4 day weekend on the coast that weekend with all of our friends…so yes.  I think if a lot of us out of that group were invited to a wedding it would be a total bummer.  Plus people think, IMO, that they’re being cute having it on a Sunday which really puts a wrench in the holiday weekend.

Labor day weekend is another one that annoys me…a lot of friends thought that would be good.

Flights are usually more expensive around that time too…along with traffic being heavier.

Post # 7
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I got irritated when I had to be away for a wedding over Thanksgiving, but Memorial Day?  No way!  That’s such a fun summer’s-almost-here type holiday.  I think it’s perfect for a wedding!

Post # 8
1524 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m with Miss Chapstick – holiday weekend weddings are so much kinder to my bank account because I don’t have to use vacation time to attend.

If you’re really worried about it, you might consider putting together a list of fun things to do, places to eat, sights to see, etc. in your town or city to include with your invitations.  That way, your guests won’t feel as though they can’t get value for the trip or that your wedding is the only game in town.

Post # 9
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Memorial Day is different for everyone. Some open cottages, some attend family gatherings, some go away entirely, etc.  You might find that you’ll get slightly more declines than a regular weekend, but it is what it is, right?

Post # 10
415 posts
Helper bee

That’s a great holiday for a wedding because then people probaly already have that Monday off, instead of some vacation day they might have to spend traveling. It’s YOUR date, people are adults and can choose whether they want to go or not. You’re not rude at all.

Post # 11
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The only problem that I could think of is that flights/train tickets/etc, are more expensive on a holiday weekend, and traffic getting there will be exponentially worse.  Besides that, as long as I got enough advance notice, I would be fine with it.

Post # 12
1530 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think it’s rude necessarily.  Some people might be happy that they don’t have to use vacation time to travel.  I do know that some people have strong feelings about it, so you may have some people who aren’t able to attend because of other plans.  I think as long as you’re okay with that, it’s alright. 

Post # 13
638 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our wedding date is set for the Friday before Labor Day (Sep. 03) and we’ve heard nothing but good things about it so far. I think having your wedding on a long weekend like that is nice for guests because it gives them an excuse of sorts to take a longer vacation that weekend AND it kicks the weekend off right by starting it with a great party!

Post # 14
6980 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think people have very different opinions on this and no one is right or wrong. On one hand, it is great to do it this way because out-of-towners probably won’t have to take a day off of work. 

Personally I don’t like holiday weekend weddings because I want my holiday weekends for myself to take a trip or just catch up on stuff around the house. That being said, I’ve been to several and I don’t think it is RUDE to have them at all. 🙂

Post # 15
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it’ll always be 50/50 for liking/disliking holiday weekend weddings. Honestly, I was initially annoyed to have to go to a wedding this past Labor Day (all the way in Wisconsin, no less!) but it actually ended up being really fun. The weather was great. My fiance and I spent the whole weekend together (and there’s nothing like traveling and navigating to really bring you closer together ^_^), enjoyed the wedding and wandered back to Iowa/Nebraska in a leisurely fashion, no rush because I didn’t have to work on Monday and he didn’t have class.

Traveling can be more expensive, so I would recommend sending out STDs nice and early if you do go for Memorial Day weekend so people have a head’s up. ^_^

Post # 16
5280 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i prefer holiday weddings honestly (and the big holidays such as christmas, thanksgiving, etc) now the reason is because my wedding would probably be filled with more family than friends anyway…. and if you can’t come then don’t…. i think everyone forgets that there is always the option to rsvp no if it’s that big of a deal.  those that want to be there will defintiely be there for you.

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