Post # 1
Fiance and I are considering having our wedding on Memorial Day weekend of 2016. We have a lot of people coming in from out of town, so we thought it would be easier on the people who have to travel if they have that extra day off work. We are also doing multiple events (it’s an Indian wedding), so it helps to have three weekend nights instead of only two. However, we’ve gotten some not-so-great feedback from a couple people saying they were resentful when their friends got married on holiday weekends in the past, since they wanted to make other plans. I’ve never been upset when I had a wedding to go to over a holiday weekend in the past, so it caught me a little off-guard.
Is having a wedding over MDW really in poor taste, or are those friends making a bigger deal over it than it really is? I can’t help but think that if someone actually resented me for having my wedding at on a certain weekend (that wasn’t like, the weekend of their own wedding), they are free to decline.
Post # 2
FantasticFawn: I don’t think it’s rude to have it over Memorial Day weekend. It’s only rude if you have an issue with people not being able to attend, which it seems that you don’t.
Post # 3
FantasticFawn: I don’t see a problem with Memorial Day. Christmas- yes. New Year- yes. 4th of July (if you’re American)- maybe. But Memorial Day? If they’re upset about that then they’d probably be upset about having to take an extra day off work on a non-holiday weekend.
You can’t please everyone. Do what works best for you.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t call it rude, but I would expect some people to decline the invitation because of other Memorial Day weekend activities. Your most important guests will probably prioritize your wedding over other stuff though.
Post # 5
It doesn’t matter when you schedule your wedding, someone will not be able to attend and someone will be upset at your choice.
Personally, I prefer holiday weekends because it limits the time off I need to take from work.
If it is on a holiday weekend, I do suggest that you get STD’s out early so people don’t make vacation reservations they can’t cancel.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2015 - Country Club
FantasticFawn: I think holiday weekend weddings are a really good idea. Especially for out of town guests. I am having my wedding labor day weekend this year. I haven’t had any complaints and even if people did complain who cares. If people really care about you and want to be at your wedding they will be there. No need to worry! Do what makes you happy.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
FantasticFawn: people are so weird. What could you possibly be doing over Memorial Day that trumps your friends getting married. I would be happy I had more time to spend wherever I was going. Just give people plenty of notice and it should be fine.
Post # 8
Flights and hotels are usually a quite a bit more expensive on holiday weekends, which is not necessarily ‘rude’ but can be quite an inconvenience to some of your guests…particularly if they are coming from far away.
Post # 9
We scheduled ours on Columbus Day weekend so there was the Monday off. granted, no one really celebrates that day. It has been met with gratitude, they don’t have to take an extra day off to travel home. Memorial Day is slightly trickier but it is not a big holiday, I’m sure your guests with also appreciate having a long weekend, especially if theynare traveling to you.
Post # 10
I don’t think it is rude at all.
Post # 11
I would much prefer it! Now I would be irritated if you were getting married Christmas Eve/Day or Thanksgiving but pretty much all the other long weekend type holidays are fair game to me! Though I do agree that letting people know sooner rather than later is a good idea as people do make plans for long weekends in advance. But no date is going to please everyone.
Post # 12
Nope – I actually like weddings on 3 day weekends – especially if it’s a wedding I have to travel far for. Then I don’t have to make sure I take the next flight out the following day to rush home. It’s nice to have that Monday off to reset.
Post # 13
I went to one this past year and it didn’t bother me too much, but hotel rooms were actually pretty hard to come by. Still I made a little vacation out of it even though the hotel block was sold out.
This year my friend has a friend having a wedding over labor day and she finds it so annoying bc she had other plans she wanted to make.
Vacation days are hard to come by either way I suppose, so whether they use the holiday to come to your wedding instead of using it for a trip or have to use a vacation day, someone is going to be annoyed at having to travel!
Post # 14
I’d prefer it on a long weekend and don’t usually have big plans for Memorial Day, so I’d be all for it, so long as I had plenty of notice to get my airfare and hotel booked early to try to avoid holiday price hikes as much as possible.
Post # 15
FantasticFawn: I think Memorial Day is fine. Like a PP said, I do think some holidays are rude (like Xmas, new year’s, valentine’s day, my birthday [lol!], etc.). Some people might think it’s rude/annoying but you can’t please everyone anyway. I wouldn’t worry about it 🙂
I’m having my wedding 4th of July weekend because it’s a 3 day weekend this year too. Like you, I thought the extra day would be convenient for OOTG, plus 4th of July is fun in any city and great for family gatherings. I think memorial day is great for the same reasons.