(Closed) Is it rude to have a wedding on Memorial Day weekend?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

ADiamondInTheRough:  Date twins!


FantasticFawn:  I certainly hope it’s not rude because I had mine on Sunday of Memorial Day weekend last year. Didn’t have anyone complain. One guest declined because of an annual family trip but otherwise it was fine.

Post # 62
42 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015 - UC Botanic Garden, Berkeley, CA

I don’t know if it’s rude, but as a guest, I prefer if the wedding is not over a holiday weekend. For most people, this can be the only time you get off work over the summer, and I’d rather go on a personal vacation. If I were close friends with the couple, I’d still attend the wedding, but, honestly, I might grumble a bit privately.

Holiday weekends can also be more expensive for guests in terms of both flights and hotels.

Post # 63
107 posts
Blushing bee

I think you just need to check with your circle to see how it’s going to land. It’s definitely not ‘rude’, or against etiquette, but depending on your friends/family, it may be more inconvenient for them than you intend it to be.

For me, personally, I’d love it – I normally work weekends, and holiday weekends are always cleared, but I generally don’t have big plans on Memorial Day wknd, Labor Day wknd, 4th of July wknd, etc. My friends and I might have a party, BBQ, or beach day, but that’s not a big deal to forego.

However, MANY people I know use those weekends to take out of town trips to visit friends and family, and sometimes have longstanding regular events, etc.

I think you really need to just get a sense of where YOUR people stand on this, generally.


Post # 64
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think the date is rude, but just keep in mind that the cost can be prohibitive for some invited guests to attend. My friend has her wedding on Memorial Day Weekend in Colorado and the flights were outrageously inflated. Also her hotel did not offer room block rates on a holiday weekend, so the entire weekend cost was over $1000 pp, not including meals and the wedding gift. Sadly, we did not attend (as well as several other friends) because we just couldn’t justify the extreme costs associated with the holiday.

Post # 65
2456 posts
Buzzing bee

There was a gorgeous Indian wedding in the hotel that was hosting my son’s wedding party, and that was a Memorial Day weekend wedding. 

Everyone seemed to be having a terrific time.

Post # 66
16 posts
  • Wedding: May 2016

We’re having our wedding on Memorial Day weekend of next year. I’m a librarian so I work a lot of weekends, but the library is closed on holdiays. By having a Memorial Day weekend wedding, I can include my colleagues, which is important to me. I know some guests may be unable to attend, but the important people (family and good friends!) have the date on their calendars.

Post # 67
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That what we did my wedding was 5/22/09, all my guest were happy it was over the holiday weekend. The next day the family had a BBQ it was a really good holiday. I think it just depends on the guest, but don’t let it stop you. I think it’s a wonderful idea, even though I’m bias. 

Post # 68
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I hope not, because Fiance and I are getting married the same weekend! 🙂 Honestly, when we tell anyone the weekend, if they have some comment about how they usually do xyz, I just smile and tell them that’s too bad, because our wedding is going to be a ton of fun! And really, if they don’t have other plans already set in some and would just rather go to the beach/go camping/etc. do you really want them to show up to your wedding? Do what will make you happy!

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