Is it rude to have my wedding a month before my good friend's wedding?

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Bee Keeper

You get one day.  Just like she does.  She needs to understand that it worked out better for you in this case to book sooner, you didn’t do this maliciously or on purpose.  

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

usernamewastaken :  A month is enough time difference that it’s not a big deal. If it was the same week or something I’d probably rethink it, but a month is totally fine. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

So in her eyes, she deserves “wedding attention” because of her longer dating status, and you should be secondary because of your shorter one. How about this? Neither of you will get the attention she is envisioning because neither her or your wedding will be the star of other people’s lives (I say this as a person who loves weddings and gets really excited to attend them). Perhaps you should also make sure your wedding is more modest than hers since she waited 6 years and you didn’t.

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper

We had friends get married just before we did. We were thrilled to be there and have a fun and relaxing evening.  It would not have even crossed my mind to be upset about it much less have the nerve to call them out. Her attitude is rude and totally unjustifiable.

To be honest, I can’t imagine having a friend who would say something like that or even think that way. Worst comes to worst, they can’t attend. In this case, I would not see that as any great loss.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

usernamewastaken :  Girl you betta keep your wedding date! I find it so funny how people act so entitled sometimes smh

Post # 36
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Helper bee

Nope! That was easy. You get one day. That’s all. And even then other people have a right to their stuff.

Im guessing you are both on the young side? Most people stop thinking like that as they age.

 

(my brother got engaged after me and married one month before me at a destination wedding with the same guest list basically-I was thrilled for him! Because his wedding isn’t something over which I have the slightest claim.)

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I got married 6 weeks after one of my best friends. We were bridesmaids in each others weddings, helepd each other with the planning, the whole nine yards. She even made the cupcakes for my wedding. And it was awesome! Having friends getting married close to you means there are other wedding-obsessed people you can talk to without annoying your other friends. You didin’t do anything wrong, and even if you’re not best friends you can still chat about wedding stuff together. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Good for her for being honest about her feelings. Now that she’s gotten that out, hopefully it cleared the air and she can let it go. Whether she does or not isn’t up to you, and it’s not yours to carry. 

All you can do is apologize for hurting her feelings, and let it go. 

Enjoy your wedding to the fullest. Enjoy hers. These things are fleeting and so valuable – don’t let petty things get in the way of days you can cherish for the rest of your life. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

No it’s not wrong at all 🙂 I don’t see how this could be a problem. Enjoy your day!

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

She’s being a diva. She’s prob mad that she had to wait so long for her ring, so she’s taking it out on you. The stress of wedding planning can bring out the worst in people. She should know that booking a venue isn’t easy, and it’s a pricy dicy thing, you gotta get what date you can. 

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