Post # 1
Key players are A, B and C. “A” suggested a concert taking place in B’s neighborhood, so “B” offered to drive the two of them along with one of their significant others. So the original plan was 3 going in B’s car. Several days after the original plan, “A” invited “C” without consulting “B” and offered to “C” that “B” will be driving. “B” feels put out by this because “B” doesn’t know “C” that well. “A” is friends with both, but “B” considers “C” an acquaintance and doesn’t want to drive this person, sighting discomfort and fear of getting into an accident and getting sued.
Post # 2
To me this falls under the category of “Things not worth getting worked up about.” What’s done is done. Yeah, A probably should have checked with B before offering the ride. But maybe A didn’t realize that B considers C an acquaintance and not a friend. Whatever. Unless you’re in high school that dynamic shouldn’t matter. At this point, find a solution that makes B happy.
Either suck it up, stop worrying, and drive C with everyone else. I”m pretty sure insurance takes care of any injuries or issues if there’s an accident. Passengers, friends or not, would likely sue the insurance company to get money for any injuries.
Or have A tell C, “Sorry, B isn’t comfortable driving so many people but you’re welcome to meet up with us at the concert.”
Don’t complicate things. Be honest. If you/B/whomever we’re talking about is uncomfortable then you don’t have to put yourself in that situation.
Post # 3
It’s a car ride, I don’t see what the big deal is. I wouldn’t do this but I wouldn’t be upset if somebody did, I’m more along the lines of the more the merrier.
Post # 4
A should have asked first, but unless driving C adds a bunch of extra kilometres not a big deal.
Post # 5
Doesn’t sound like a big deal to me.
I don’t really understand the point about B suddenly afraid of getting into an accident.
Post # 6
How would C being a passenger make B more prone to getting in an accident?
Post # 7
This seems like drama just for the sake of being drama. A’s reason sounds like bullshit to me. This just doesn’t seem like a big deal at all. If there’s room in the car I would have absolutely no problem with another person tagging along.
Post # 8
calliekalico2 : The getting into an accident and getting sued fear is so weird. Just because it’s an acquaintance? Odd. Yes it was rude of C to just assume her person would Tag along without asking. She should have asked but B should say yes out of respect for her friend. Irs just a car ride.
Post # 9
as a courtesy, A should have checked with B first to make sure it was ok.
in the scheme of things, it is not a big deal. but it is rude.
Post # 10
I dont really get the driving aspect of it, but I actually hate it when people do this with plans. I prefer small groups or 1 on 1 meetings, and I hate it when I have a “date” set up with someone and theyre like “Oh I invited so and so along too, hope thats ok”.
Post # 11
calliekalico2 : Depends on how far out C is compared to where B and A live. I would be annoyed if someone said I was driving and I had to go way out of my way to get C.
Post # 12
A, B and C should all give less fucks and go and enjoy the concert.
Post # 13
It’s definitely rude. I’m wondering if the “accident fear” is a red herring and there may actually be some social phobia involved?
It was also wrong of B to promise a ride to C, as B had no idea if A was driving anyone else or had room in the car for additional passengers on that particular date.
Post # 14
Not gonna lie it is rude. To tell someone they have pick up another freind you invited on your own. Even if they kind of know them is not good.If I make plans with you than I made plans with you I would not invite other freinds unless I asked you first.
Post # 15
Wow the panel is split! Love it, thanks for all input!