Is it rude to invite someone else to a pre existing plan without consulting…

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Which option best fits your opinion?
    A was rude to extend B's driving services to C : (34 votes)
    49 %
    B is being petty, there is no reason they cant all ride in B's car : (35 votes)
    51 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    4889 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Eh I find it pretty presumptuous. A quick text would have avoided any issue I’m sure. Even if she didn’t want to drive the other person, her car her rules. 

    Post # 17
    Member
    2009 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    A should have definitely consulted B before inviting C. That’s just rude. The suing part, however, is weird and makes me think B is a little unstable. Does B think every unfamiliar person she comes into contact with might sue her?

    Post # 18
    Member
    2704 posts
    Sugar bee

    That’s bizarre. They aren’t moving in together, they’re driving like 10 minutes to a concert in B’s NEIGHBORHOOD. Wtf?

    Post # 19
    Member
    3867 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    She should have asked, but surely this isn’t a big deal. The suing thing is stupid. 

    Post # 20
    Member
    4102 posts
    Honey bee

    Seems like a pretty stupid thing to get upset about and a b.s. excuse.  Assuming the extra person is going to meet them at the same house or is reasonably on the way and the person driving owns a vehicle capable of holding 4 people and not just three, then what is the big deal?  It’s a concert and riding together and saving gas and parking costs and hassle makes sense.  Who cares that you don’t know them well?  Hanging out more with people is how you get to know them better.  It’s a car ride and a concert, not an orgy.  You’re not having sex with them or become surgically altered into Siamese twins with them or marrying them.

    Post # 21
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    40 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    Nope, its rude to invite someone else without the first persons OK. If the mutual friend wanted to invite the extra friend, the mutual friend should have called the first and said “hey, X is stuck for a lift, how about I swing around and pick up you and your hubby so we can all go together in my car?”. Alternatively the mutual friend should have said “I’m not driving myself, I’m getting a lift, lets meet there”. Its also a bit risky in that the driver could have offered a lift to another friend, and therefore the seat would not have been available.

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