(Closed) Is it rude to not be registered?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wouldn’t say it is rude but people are accustomed to buying presents for a wedding. I think it leaves them a little lost to try and figure out what you want on their own if you do not give them guidance. I, for one, would not think of attending a wedding without buying a present for the couple, it’s just what you do….I thought. With that said we needed nothing either. We opted for a honeymoon registry and have gotten very positive responses to it. Additionally, one of my very good friends convinced me that at the bridal shower people actually want to see you open things. For that purpose I made registries at a few stores but that info will not be on the wedding website only the shower invitations.

Post # 18
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7835 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We did not register.

Post # 19
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1154 posts
Bumble bee

Nope, not rude.  Personally, I’m looking forward to any tangible gifts that are off registry – I think it’ll be nice/more meaningful.

Post # 20
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not rude but be prepared for a ton of gifts you don’t want and can’t return if you don’t register. Even if you don’t feel you need anything (and you absolutely don’t want to replace/upgrade anything you already have), guests still want to buy you something as many people do not give cash gifts, and they don’t know what you want unless you have a registry. Surely there are fun entertainment/hobby type things you’d like: camping or outdoor gear if you are into that, items related to grilling, etc. Even board games, dvds, and similar entertainment stuff is perfectly ok.

Post # 21
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think it’s rude at all!

I do think that you’re going to wind up with a lot of money (yay!) and a lot of gifts you don’t want. Friends of mine set up a registry on myresitry.com and they added a few kitchen items that you could buy at Target, Macy’s, etc. They also included some honeymoon items (dinner at a nice restaurant, sunset cruise, etc). They weren’t registered for much, but it gave their guests a go-to just in case.

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