Post # 1
I was talking to some friends about logistics at my wedding and a lot of them were kind of surprised that I was not providing transportation back to the hotel after the wedding (frankly some of them seemed upset). Granted this is a rural wedding, not really in a taxi/uber friendly area, but I have been in this situation 3-4 times and have always had to figure out a carpool and rent a car. to get around (usually somesones date would drive, etc.).
I am already a little over budget and the transportation options are over 1200 (no hotels have shuttles). Since most of the people are local, I would basically be paying 1200 to shuttle 6-8 people around. Is it really inconsiderate to not provide transportation? Frankly I was a little offended by the way people reacted.
Post # 2
No, it’s not rude at all. It might be different if you were having a Destination Wedding in a weird area where transportation options were scarce for everyone. Your friends’ reactions seem a little bonkers to me.
Post # 3
No, it’s not rude. I see transportation as an added bonus not an expected service.
Post # 4
summerbride0815: This is just another part of the wedding “culture” that is driving up costs.
There is no other social event I attend on a regular basis, where a shuttle is provided. It is expected that the guests are adults, and will either limit their alcohol intake, have a designated driver or take alternative transportation.
You will no doubt get responses from Bees who will say that you might be legally liable if guests over-indulge and drive. I don’t live in the USA, so I can’t speak to how to minimize your liablity. In Canada, more onus is placed on the individual to stay sober if they are going to drive (although, unfortunately we are moving more and more to the litigious style of the US).
Post # 5
summerbride0815: It seems like some of your friends are upset because they want to drink and won’t be able to since there is no taxi service.
Post # 6
If there’s no taxi service available, it would be really considerate of you to provide something so that your friends can drink and party. Could you hire some local college kids to come act as a “shuttle” for whoever might need it at the end of the night?
Not that it’s necessary, but if it ensures that your friends get home safely, it would be worth it to me.
Post # 7
No, it’s not rude to not provide transport for guests – they are presumably grown adults who can arrange their own transportation. If it’s not an uber/taxi area, they can either arrange for one of them to drive or arrange for someone else (such as a family member) to come and pick them up.
I’m also getting married in a more rural area (wine growing region) without a reliable taxi/uber service. I am not providing transport for any of my guests. The winery we’re getting married at has accommodation if people wish to stay, otherwise they’re on their own. Organising a shuttle would be too difficult, as everyone lives in different areas – there isn’t really a central location where they can be dropped off (and even if there was they would still need to find their way home from there). We have a large group of friends who are talking about arranging their own shuttle (a mini bus I think). We also know of other people who are having someone come out to pick them up. Everyone else is carpooling with a designated driver.
Post # 8
They can find a way back home. They’ll get over it. You didn’t do anything wrong.
Post # 9
If your reception is somewhere that guests can’t easily get a taxi, your choices are either to provide transportation or accept it when everyone leaves early because they don’t have a designated driver and would like to have some drinks. You wouldn’t be in the wrong to not provide transportation, but they wouldn’t be in the wrong for making it an early night. Just as long as everyone accepts the other party’s choices politely.
Post # 10
No one has outwardly said it to us, but every friend and family wedding we have attended has provided transportation. It’s just not in our budget. We’re in the position where we could provide a school bus ($800 in our area), but we’d have to limit how much we can cover the bar. Our venue doesn’t allow bringing outside alcohol, or limiting to beer and wine. I’m worried people will think we’re rude or cheap for not providing it, but the family members who would are cousins, etc. who have all had shuttles, and their weddings are pretty soon before ours. I keep trying to remind myself that they aren’t necessary, and our family wouldn’t want us to go into debt to provide it, but I still dislike the predicament. In our case, our venue is pretty rural, but you can technically get an uber. There’s an uber event service where you can essentially gift your guests a code that charges you. We might do that, but I still think this is ridiculous. I’m very spending conscious, and all of a sudden this wedding business is aking me feel like certain things are absolutely necessary.
Post # 11
This is crazy. Even if you provided some kind of shuttle are they do drop each and every guest at their home?
If people expect you to deliver them safely home because they want to make a few trips to the bar then what the heck do these people do when they want to go out for drinks with friends? I would hope they either make a wise decision and either limit their intake or designate a sober driver.
Post # 12
If there is no taxi service then yes, I personally think it is rude.
Post # 13
I’m having trouble wrapping my head around $1200 for 6-8 people. What is it, air fare? 🙂 How far does a taxi need to go to rack up a $400 fare?
Anyway, it’s not your responsibility. It’s pretty entitled to expect someone else to drive you home when you’re an adult.
Post # 14
Meh, we’re not, and we’re also getting married at a vineyard in a more rural area well outside of taxi / uber territory. We figure the guests will work it out. I really don’t think people will leave early just because there is no transportation. All it takes is one sober driver to take a car full of people back to the hotel which is less than 5 miles away, and many of the guests will be carpooling. We priced it and decided that it just wasn’t worth it.
Post # 15
Depending on where you are relative to your guests, it can be a nice thoughtful touch. Parking is limited in some locations.
A couple of years ago, I attended a wedding on Long Island. The bride and groom lived in Manhattan as did most of their friends who’d be attending. Since none of us had cars, they realized the easiest thing to do would be to rent shuttles to pick everyone up in the city. I don’t think that the church or the venue would have had parking for 350 people, nor would the 2 hour car ride been that great during the height of the summer season.
Our wedding is downtown, as are the hotels as part of the block. Parking is very limited at our venue, but we understand that most people can walk or get Ubers. We are doing shuttles for the wedding party, parents, and elderly or infirm guests.